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[qualitygal]

Well, since I dress for myself, choose my own clothes and all,  the only person I have to please is me, and if me is happy, that's all that matters anyway.  Everyone really just wants to tend to themselves, so while compliments are nice, if they make themselves happy they can be happy with the mirror's reflection.  Bet you look just fine!

[TX-starlight]

I dress for myself, but.........I'm very over-weight & compliments mean a lot to me, IF I feel they are sincere. Once I had a stranger tell me "You look so good & all put together". It really meant a lot to me for a stranger to say it. Then another time, I had met friends for lunch. A few days later I was talking on the phone with 1 of the ladies, she told me... "I don't know what you have done, but you looked so nice at the lunch, your hair, make-up, & clothes all looked so nice".  It meant a lot when she said it, but even more, since it was our last conversation. She passed away a few days later. 

I always tell someone when they look nice or have something good to say to/about them. It makes them feel better, as well as myself. 

[Peaches McPhee]

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@IMWwrote:

I think as women get older they become “invisible “.

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I came on here to post this same thing.   

We ARE invisible.  (But, I gotta say, that is very liberating.)

[BeccaLou]

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@Group 5 minus 1wrote:

One of the Q's selling tricks is to tell us that we will get lots of compliments!

If that is important to you than you should be around people give those out.

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Well I sure do from my pants, shirts, coat, and shoes all from the Q. Woops, and my purse and earrings, the Q. owns me.

[bonnielu]

Me, my confidence comes from who  I am and what I do with my day. Paying me compliments is nice, appreciate it... but I pride myself on being nice and caring about others.  I keep clean and wear clothes that fit and suit my mood or the events I attend.

I do like to give compliments because the lit up face when they hear it makes  me feel proud that I might have made their day in some way.   

[AuntG]

That is a very interesting topic. You know that you dress and look nice so compliments would be expected.  Maybe they do slow down around age 60. One thing I'm guilty of is giving compliments to people who "fish" for them. I have a friend who constantly talks about how artistic she is. Being that I have no talent for art, color, accessories......I sometimes feed into her desire for compliments by saying she is so talented (by the way, most people don't think her art is anything special).  My conclusion is that you have it all together, and appear happy with yourself. While you would love a compliment, you don't appear to need them. That's a positive thing.

[YorkieonmyPillow]

@HouseMouse  You've received some good responses and suggestions.

  Some people just look so "put together," others do not give them compliments because they're jealous.

  Perhaps that is the situation with you.

  I wouldn't worry about it.

  Just do things for yourself, that YOU enjoy --- like shopping, doing your nails, new hairstyle, and I predict compliments coming your way!

  Personally, I LOVE to see a well-groomed lady...someone who has taken the time and care to look well turned-out, as they used to say...it's a treat for the eyes.

[StraytoStay]

I saw a talk show, decades ago was probably Donahue, a woman about sixty wrote of women close to her age being invible to society. She spoke of wearing a dress of a color that was suited to her and socializing at a party and still not getting much attention back or any compliments. She may have been promoting a book back then, I'd suggest searching for one, there's got to be more by now. Seems like that is true for a lot of us. Lots of theories on this & it's probably different for situation & persons. I was young when I saw the show, and fifty now. I've noticed less as each year passes myself. Glad I saw the show then, as I would have gotten a complex myself. 😌

[SeaMaiden]

@HouseMouse  Why do you need others to compliment you when you say you know your hair looks nice or that you feel like you look good?  

First off, yes, the older a women gets....the more she disappears.  In today's society, it is just fact.  Accept that.

You need to work on not needing others approval or notice of your hair or your new top to make you feel special or good.   You need to just KNOW  that you look good without compliments.  Sure a compliment is nice....and everyone enjoys getting them. But, to feel bad because you give them out and no one seems to give one back to you is just setting yourself up for a bad day. You are putting a negative vibe out there and expecting positive feedback.

One thing that you might start doing is picking out something about yourself that you like everyday and telling yourself OUTLOUD how happy this makes you feel and how  grateful you are for that .....It can be looks....your home...your pet...a pretty piece of jewelry.  You can even be grateful for all the good yet to come in your life!   JUST TRY TO BE GRATEFUL.  

Over time you will turn that insecurity into Gratuity.   And Gratitude brings wonderful benefits with it...you will be amazed!  It is a change of PRECEPTION that happens when you begin to focus on Gratitude in your life rather than what is missing...

I hope this idea helps....is sure had  made my life much more full and complete🙏🏻🙂

[KitTkat]

@HouseMouse

I'd like to compliment you for your boldness in addressing this subject. We all need to do our part in this world by encouraging others. Kindness goes both ways, and if you keep sharing kindness through remarks, actions and good deeds, that kindness will be given to you in return. May you find many blessings today.