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[Luvsmyfam]

just found out a close co workers got his 3rd dui over memorial weekend.he has been told,if he goes to rehab,which he plans to do he might get a lighter sentence.even tho he is a 40 yr old man,and should know better,I still feel so sorry for him.he has actually shed tears when telling me this.he has a longtime girlfriend and a 14yr old son.he is buying his home,and just bought a different vehicle.i can only listen to him and certainly not judge.im sorry, maybe this subject has no place for discussion in here

[lolakimono]

@Luvsmyfam 

Maybe this will be his "rock bottom" to be able to make changes.

[manny2]

@Luvsmyfam Yes, it can be discussed here it is a disease. 

[On It]

Alcoholism is a disease. Hopefully, treatment will help him get control of his situation. You are kind to offer support to him. You can only provide support and hope he gets the help he needs to stop making bad choices.

[Luvsmyfam]

lolakimono,I certainly hope this is his rock bottom.but I also hope he can see light at the end of the tunnel.going through a divorce,put me in a very dark place.that was10 yrs ago.somehow,I pulled myself through all of it.i know,everyone has had darkness in their life at 1 point

[Luvsmyfam]

this is how I would want to be treated.i will never judge him for his mistakes

[KingstonsMom]

His third DUI??

Once is a mistake, after that it's a habit, IMO.

If you ever lost loved ones due to a drunk driver, maybe you wouldn't have so much sympathy for the drunk driver.

It's really hard to lose loved ones to someone who was just selfish and uncaring and CHOSE to drive drunk.

Of course, your co-worker hasn't killed or seriously injured anyone.....yet.

And of course, they always agree to go to 'rehab' for a lighter sentence.

[kitcat51]

No sympathy from me, he's lucky he didn't kill or harm an innocent person...he deserves the harshest sentence & largest fine possible.

[proudlyfromNJ]

Three is way past a mistake. The way to help is get him in a program and make sure he takes it seriously. I would think the courts would not be so lenient as this is his third. I'm assuming his license was or will be suspended.

[Lucky Charm]

It would be hard for me to shed any tears for someone who drives while impaired.

Our youngest was struck by a drunk driver when he was 19.  He will always have the facial scars and the mental scars that go with them.  The drunk went to jail only because he killed someone in his car.  I wanted to pretend he went to jail because of what he did to our son and his friend who was driving at the time.

His wife, when 7 months pregnant, was struck head on by a drunk driver who went to jail because it was a 3rd offense.  

Thankfully our daughter in law and our grandchild were okay.

If only drunk drivers hit/killed other drunk drivers.....