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[SurferWife]

@Karnerblue.Bless your sweet heart. Saying goodbye to our daddys is so hard; our first hero in life, our protector, the one who never fails us and would go to the ends of the world to fulfill our every wish. May you find comfort during these last days with him. He'll be in your heart forever...I know mine is.

[Kachina624]

@Karnerblue  Having been there myself, I know how very sad this is for you.  I just hope when the time come, your dad passes peacefully.  I'll be thinking of you.

[Karnerblue]

I can't begin to tell you how much talking and sharing with all of you has meant to me.  Thank you for sharing your stories and experiences because it helps me to know there are others I can relate to and who understand.  I have two brothers and three sisters and I have to say I feel like I don't belong to the same family.  Except for my older brother, I relate to none of them. 

Since my Dad has been home they've been rummaging through his things, going up in the attic and through his desk and papers.  Right in front of my Dad they were all talking about what things they wanted.  My three sisters even went to the funeral home the day after just to "find out what we should expect."  At first I couldn't sleep or eat thinking about them.  But I just had to quiet my mind and distance myself and concentrate on my Dad being comfortable and taken care of.  That's my focus. 

I appreciate all of you.  I really do.  Thank you

[Tissyanne]

@Karnerblue,

God be with you and your dad today and always. I can only imagine the difficulty in this time in your life. My daddy died suddenly, and I never had the chance to tell him farewell, and I wish that I had. 

[Karnerblue]

@Tissyanne, I'm so sorry.  It's hard no matter what the circumstance.

[Big Sister]

Bless you and your father.  Once your dad is "gone" you will have the wonderful memory of being able to say "goodbye."   I now know how important that is.

[MoJoV]

Bless you and your Father. Time together is so precious now for you. And knowing he is in good care when you can't be there must be a tremendous relief.  

[bebe777]

@Karnerblue, clearly there's a strong bond between the two of you and he still recognizes you in some way. My best wishes go out to you both.

-- bebe

[NAES1]

@Karnerblue  "please forgive me for not being here with you yesterday. I have just, now, learned of your precious dad's passing".

You once called me your angel. I will never forget that, along with the sweetest photo that will forever be in my memory.

Before I came to this Community Board, my father, my dearest friend died, not from Alzheimer's but from a sudden neuropathy that slowly had taken his quality of life away, becoming totally bedridden. Daddy was cared by my brother for over two years. He and my brother, at that time, made a decision to have my 'bub' be his primary caregiver, since they both lived in the same state/city.

My brother gave up his entire career so dad could be at home with all his familiar surroundings. I lived many miles in another state and traveled either via car or air every few weeks. This was when Daddy was doing fine while being bedridden, having the lower extremities frozen. We made the dining room in to one large bedroom so he could have all of the outdoors right in front of him. He wanted for nothing. I loved my brother for this to this day.

Your story exempts a strong resemblances to what my father went through when he became worse, having a hospice room within the hospital.

I stayed with dad 24/7 and held his hand, talked with him. Although his eyesight became very weak, he always knew I was there when he called out for me every few minutes to 'know' I had never left his side. He died 7 days after being in that one hospice room.

What I wanted to explain to you was that YES he knew who you were, that You were his angel on earth before he left to be with God. You are and have always been on such a much higher level than your family from when I first knew you through many trials of sorrow, from each separate episode. 

Families do change before our unbelieving eyes when a parent becomes ill, helpless or is dying. Being in the medical field, a neighbor, a witness,-`` I have seen the horrors that do exist.

I send you love, understanding, but more than this- I am so proud to know that you were there with your HERO of a father in those last years, months down to the final minutes.

How very proud dad is of you, at this very time.

   "I never underestimate your strength, you are loving example _what a cherished child can and should be"_. 

  With deepest condolences from our home to you, a child of Jesus' teachings. 

       Love~

                            NAES

[dooBdoo]

        (((@Karnerblue))), Although no one can walk in another person's shoes so we don't have the precisely same experiences, it's clear many can understand and empathize.   Both of my parents slipped the bounds of this earth at a young age.    My sweet father passed away when I was 17 years old, but even in those relatively few years we had he was warm and loving, and he was determined to let us all know how much we meant to him.   My mother was shy, quiet, and very different from Daddy...  even though she dedicate her short life  to making our lives wonderful, she only offered the occasional hug and never spoke about her feelings.   (She grew up in a horribly abusive home.)   She had 2 bouts of breast cancer and then feel into very early, very fast dementia -- at it was only at that time she said, "I love you."  She passed away shortly after that.   I will always believe these expressions of love at the end of life are sincere and come directly from a place of truth.

      My heart goes out to you, and to all who feel sadness.