Re: Making a tough decision

GenXmuse · ‎05-15-2016

Didn't you want to sue your brother not too long ago?

CrazyDaisy · ‎03-20-2010

@GenXmuse wrote:
Didn't you want to sue your brother not too long ago?

People often think they can get peace of mind by using the court system. Often it is just looking for revenge for a perceived wrong. That is why they say "it is not about the money".

Someday, when scientists discover the center of the Universe....some people will be disappointed it is not them.

chiclets · ‎07-01-2012

After a year you decided a law suit should be filed. Your choice.

I do recall you father's death and all the legal matters you were going through. With that said I am curious if you had so much contact with the nursing home concerning your father's care why did you have such a problem when they seemed to have had more contact with your sister-in-law instead of you regarding matters.

One thing does not have to do with the other but pattern is the same. Victim and drama and a villain to deal with.

You may set a path and may receive money. Justice or entitlement whatever, someone has to be the blame and cause for all the injustices your dad and you have had after his death.

Tough decision or facts you can not let go or face. Your dad is gone but you cling to something that might have been.

There will be no peace of mind for you unless you have the law suit because that is who you are. You do not accept or let anything go. I think you are in pain. I think you dearly loved your dad and hurt.

The world is not against you however it seems you are against so many since his death and saying it is not about the money does not strike me as being truthful more like a reckoning.

Thank goodness covid was not in the picture. You would have gone nuts.

hyacinth003 · ‎03-12-2010

@GenXmuse wrote:
Didn't you want to sue your brother not too long ago?

@GenXmuse

No, I have not ever thought of suing my brother! I am the executor of the estate, so I hold all the money, etc. I am almost finished with it.

I was shocked and disturbed that my brother's wife wrote a check of $14,000 from my father's funds to pay off their sports car. She claimed my father said it was okay to do it. Even if he did say that, I don't believe he was competent to make that type of financial decision. I would NEVER have taken money from him like that. So now that I am about to disburse the rest of the estate, I will talk to him about that. I felt horrible that she did that, and I feel she took advantage of him.

I have done everything by the book and taken nothing from the estate. I haven't even paid myself back for money I've had to spend yet. I wish to honor my parents, and I don't think they'd want their 2 children suing each other.

Hyacinth

Mom2Dogs · ‎03-09-2010

@hyacinth003 ...I feel you pain, I have a sister that...well let's say is very dificult...always right, remembers every work spoken in a conversation, etc., etc

I would talk with a lawyer, he will be honest with you about a lawsuit being productive or not. I wish you the best.

mom2four0418 · ‎04-23-2010

@hyacinth003 wrote:
@GenXmuse wrote:
Didn't you want to sue your brother not too long ago?
@GenXmuse

No, I have not ever thought of suing my brother! I am the executor of the estate, so I hold all the money, etc. I am almost finished with it.

I was shocked and disturbed that my brother's wife wrote a check of $14,000 from my father's funds to pay off their sports car. She claimed my father said it was okay to do it. Even if he did say that, I don't believe he was competent to make that type of financial decision. I would NEVER have taken money from him like that. So now that I am about to disburse the rest of the estate, I will talk to him about that. I felt horrible that she did that, and I feel she took advantage of him.

I have done everything by the book and taken nothing from the estate. I haven't even paid myself back for money I've had to spend yet. I wish to honor my parents, and I don't think they'd want their 2 children suing each other.

Your sister-in-law had her name on your father's bank account? Unless you can prove fraud, it would be best to disburse the money without making accusations. Your only legal duty is to follow the written wishes of your father. If that is difficult for you to do without letting emotions get in the way, an estate attorney can help you with that.

“The soul is healed by being with children.”
— Fyodor Dostoyevsky

Georgiagrama · ‎03-19-2010

It is my understanding that assisted living is just that -- assisted living, not 24 hour observation.

Perhaps you should have extended your care givers hours. Very expensive, I know. My sister and I finally did have to do just that. My Mother lived at home, refused to go to an assisted living home, and would never have agreed to a nursing home, but, she had 24 hour care. We hired wonderful caregivers and my Mother loved them. Even with 24 hour care, my sister and her partner living in the same house, a fall finally killed my Mother.

Georgiagrama · ‎03-19-2010

@CrazyDaisy wrote:
@GenXmuse wrote:
Didn't you want to sue your brother not too long ago?
People often think they can get peace of mind by using the court system. Often it is just looking for revenge for a perceived wrong. That is why they say "it is not about the money".

@CrazyDaisy Ask any lawyer in this country. It is always about the money. We live in a very litigious society. If a person feels they have been wronged, perceived or factual, compensation is expected.

Anonymous032819 · ‎03-29-2019

@CrazyDaisy wrote:
@GenXmuse wrote:
Didn't you want to sue your brother not too long ago?
People often think they can get peace of mind by using the court system. Often it is just looking for revenge for a perceived wrong. That is why they say "it is not about the money".

@CrazyDaisy

You are right.

As the saying goes, "It's not about the money, it's about the principal."

I have seen cases in " The People's Court", where the plaintiff sued for just $1.00

Why?

Because it's not about the money, it's about principle.

The Sky looks different when you have someone you love up there.

libbyannE · ‎10-27-2010

I am sending you a big condolence hug. I would not file suit. I have been through a lot with elderly relatives in nursing homes, but one reaches a point at which only so much can be done. It sounds as if you are guessing about what may have happened with nothing concrete to take to court. I feel a lot of sympathy for what you've been through,ntruly, and I've had my issues with nursing homes, but I think you might be simply causing yourself needless emotion and cost by filing suit in this case.