Among Friends

[Ladygray]

Thank you for the quotes!   I appreciate your guidance.

It's so hard... I'm sort of in the grieving process.  I miss my friend, but he hasn't been there as a friend for awhile.   On Thanksgiving, he wrote me a "Happy Thanksgiving" greeting.  I thanked him.  But then I told him how lonely it can be when you have no family and how difficult it is when there are so many memories.  I didn't expect him to invite me anywhere, as he had plans, but he didn't even respond.  It took him a week to respond.  I kept worrying I had been too vulnerable and said too much and that is why he stayed away... maybe it was too much for him.   But a friend needs to be a friend through the good and bad.   I was there for him when his Mom passed away this year. I find it so sad that anyone would walk away from a friend who has been loving and caring and trusting.   I was there for him when he felt bad about himself.  I was there when his own family weren't kind.  

I remember a saying I read years ago, "People change and forget to tell each other"

[SunSprite]

@Ladygray  I'm sorry you are hurting. It is hard when the people we care about don't reciprocate our feelings.

Please remember you have value, and the gift of your friendship will be worth a lot to others. 

I came back to my response because I just saw your really long post that explained everything; when I responded before I had only seen your last two (shorter) posts. 

If what your friend did on Thanksgiving is the worst thing he's done, then maybe you should try talking to him before you move on. I'm imagining he did not know how to respond, particularly if he wasn't in a position to invite you to his dinner (I don't know his circumstances). It was probably easier for him to not respond to you, because he couldn't offer you a solution. Is that a pattern for him? 

Again I'm truly sorry. Your post really touched me, and I can imagine that was a hard day for you. But you know what? You made it through. And your sharing your feelings might help someone else that is out there reading that didn't want to post.

I'm not sure what area you live in, but are there any groups that you could look into joining? I know you mentioned volunteering before....maybe a hobby or something you are interested in?

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@Ladygray, (((HUGS))) you have received some good advice here, the hardest part is knowing that someone you trusted did not care that much for you to let your friendship go, it's their loss, not yours!

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