I feel guilty... - Page 4

Allegheny · ‎03-19-2010

Ladies, OK, we both compromised. We are not getting matching wedding bands and I am not getting the engagement ring.

He is getting a custom wedding band made. He is incorporating the sapphire from ring I had made for him before our marriage.

I am having my original wedding ring partially redesigned and having a right hand ring designed which will contain my birthstone.

We had some other gold jewelry which we turned in for use and the goldsmith will apply any excess gold to offset the final cost.

Thank you for all your caring comments.

We enjoyed a nice meal and stopped in at his favorite bakery while out.

jlkz · ‎12-02-2013

@Allegheny

DH and I went to a New Year’s Eve midnight showing of Dr. Zhivago.

He kept twirling his wedding band around his finger ( had lost some weight )....the next thing we heard was the ring rolling down the sloped floor toward the front of the theater. He offered a money reward if the cleaner found the ring...but nothing happened.

So I know where he lost it. 45+ years later he is still wearing its replacement !

Parallel sentiments !!!!!!!!!!

We make a living by what we get. We make a life by what we give.
Sir Winston Churchill

RedTop · ‎09-01-2010

@Allegheny,

Am glad you reached a compromise that pleases both of you.

I love to look at wedding rings, and find MANY I like, but I absolutely do not like to wear a ring, period. My husband insisted I pick out an eternity band ring for our 20th anniversary. I picked out a ring I really liked, but just because I liked it, didn’t make me any more inclined to wear it!

We celebrated our 40th anniversary 3 years ago. My husband pushed me to buy another ring. I still haven’t, and probably won’t, as I know I won’t wear it.

blackhole99 · ‎08-22-2013

I thought we had to have special bands made for our 25th wedding anniversary. The rings didn't cost a fortune, not even vacation type money, but the idea of it was nice. It turned out to be a waste of time and money, my husband never wore his ring and I lost mine. We are still married and will celebrate our 44th anniversary in July. Tell him how you feel and most of all don't feel guilty, however you decide to handle it.

Allegheny · ‎03-19-2010

@RedTop I wonder why certain men feel giving jewelry to their wives or significant others is so important. It is a nice trait and there are probably women out there who envy you and I.

I too love looking at wedding and other rings, but I just don't have the occasion to wear different pieces of jewelry. I am a simple person who prefers one significant, quality ring and perhaps 3-4 different earrings. I wear diamond studs which I rarely change out.

I quit wearing my original wedding ring because it was too small and just never got around to having it resized. I am always messing around home with gardening, painting, and who knows what that makes it uncomfortable and impractical to wear rings.

151949 · ‎03-09-2010

When we got married my DH wore his wedding band thru our honeymoon. And that was the end! He never wore it again.35 years now, it has never been out of the box.

He had his Mom's diamond rings reset for my engagement ring. There were 10 small side diamonds left over so I had a money clip made for him - gold with half the top onyx and half gold and her diamonds running down the seam. He did not even have it a year before he lost it.

151949 · ‎03-09-2010

My grand father was a jewelry designer. When DH & I got married he resett the rings he had made for my grandma( who was deceased) into a Tiffany bridge setting.A 2carat solitare on the top and 5 1/4 carat under the bridge part, then an attached wedding band of 5 1/4 carat stones. It is beautiful, stunning actually.However, it's just too much for me.The diamonds , because he had chosen them for the love of his life - are all exquisite. The problem is - I'm not at all comfortable wearing it. It just doesn't fit my life. I keep it in our safety deposit box. It's an investment - sort of an insurance policy. I don't think of it as jewelry I could wear. I much prefer the rings my DH gave me that had been his Mom's ring. 1/2 carat center stone and 5 stones down the shoulder on each side.I'm much more comfortable wearing it. BTW - DH had grandpa make this set too, so it does have some extra detail in it too - to make it special. He always used a lot of filigree and other pretty things in his settings.

Allegheny · ‎03-19-2010

@151949 I will say one thing about my husband. He has not removed his wedding band (used his father's) (except for medical procedures) since the day of our wedding.

The other two pieces of significant jewelery I purchased for him (a italian gold bracelet) and a birthstone ring, he only wears to "dress up" functions. He is using the birthstone ring for construction of his new wedding band. Don't know what we are going to do with the bracelet yet.

Allegheny · ‎03-19-2010

@151949 wrote:
My grand father was a jewelry designer. When DH & I got married he resett the rings he had made for my grandma( who was deceased) into a Tiffany bridge setting.A carat solitaire on the top and 5 1/4 carat under the bridge part, then an attached wedding band of 5 1/4 carat stones. It is beautiful, stunning actually.However, it's just too much for me.The diamonds , because he had chosen them for the love of his life - are all exquisite. The problem is - I'm not at all comfortable wearing it. It just doesn't fit my life. I keep it in our safety deposit box. It's an investment - sort of an insurance policy. I don't think of it as jewelry I could wear. I much prefer the rings my DH gave me that had been his Mom's ring. 1/2 carat center stone and 5 stones down the shoulder on each side.I'm much more comfortable wearing it. BTW - DH had grandpa make this set too, so it does have some extra detail in it too - to make it special. He always used a lot of filigree and other pretty things in his settings.

I love custom designed jewelry. It is so special and seems much more substantial. That is what I am trying to impress upon this goldsmith we visited. I don't want a watered down colored gemstone placed in a setting out of a catalog. I know he is trying to be conscientious of cost, but I don't mind spending dollars for what I want.

My birthstone is amethyst. Not really an expensive gem. I want a certain size, shape and deep color in a custom designed setting. A ring that if I decided to would stand up to being an everyday wearer and worthy of passing down to my nephew's wife upon my death.