Among Friends

[TX-starlight]

I have several family members & friends who are terrible at communicating. It drives me BONKERS! Does anyone else have this frustration?? 

The friends either wait forever-sometimes days before responding to a text msg. Plus one friend refuses to wear her glasses most of the time, & WHEN/IF she responds, I can barely make out what she is trying to say. I would never hurt her feeling, but this irritates me to no end. I'm always punctual in responding on ANYTHING, texts, calls, or whatever communication. It's frustrating not to get an answer. I don't make it a habit to send msg very often, so why is it so hard to get a response. 

I'm probably going to be attacked for even posting this, but I think it's bad manners to not respond. 

[AuntG]

My gripe is when all you need is a simple yes or no regarding attendance at a function.

[on the bay]

@TX-starlight-

No, I totally agree with you.

I just don't get it and I try to think well thats just how they ( some family members are) but its not that hard and yes I can't help but think its rude too or just -"Oh Im so busy, I can't be bothered" but then would be hurt if you didn't respond to any of their random texts about something, not communication just something they thought is interesting.

Or they might make a quick text, and you answer and it needs a quick response and then nothing!

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And if it was just a one time thing it would be understandable. Everyone cant respond all the time but if you have the time to text something that needs at least a little "conversation", don't text if you arent going to answer back! 

And thats my opinion and I'm sticking to it.

[shoptilyadropagain]

If I can't understand a garbled text, I have NO problem in replying and telling them so.

[TX-starlight]

I thought it might be cuz I'm Capricorn,lol.. I JUST got a reply from the friend who I can't read her texts. Honestly, if I didn't know her so well, I would have no idea what she was trying to say. You know the ole saying, we've known each other so long we can finish their sentences? That's us! But still sometimes, it is unreadable!

[on the bay]

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@shoptilyadropagain wrote:

If I can't understand a garbled text, I have NO problem in replying and telling them so.

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@shoptilyadropagain-

I have been know to send what my kids call "mom texts"

Not my intention-honestly just a phone with a mind its own.

We have had some great laughs over them though.

[Chicagosuburbangirl]

@TX-starlight I will tell you what a friend told me when something is totally out of your control:

Kiss it, bless it and give it up to God

[RedTop]

Just this week, my best friend responded to a text I sent her last Friday, by sending 4 texts within 4 minutes.     I answered her right back, and no response yet after 3 days.   She does this all-the-time.   

A friend from work shortens her texts too much, to the point they make no sense.   I have pointed this out many times and she just doesn’t get it.   So, I have started doing the exact same thing to her, which then spawns an in-depth email from her wanting the rest of the story, because she “didn’t understand my text”.

These are the same people who were poor at sending cards for any occasion, or writing letters.   I accept that some people are poor communicators, period.

[on the bay]

@RedTop-

Are we talking about the same person?!

I wonder if it is a control thing or a "passive-aggressive" way of saying, "I am making you wait, and my time is so important, I can't respond" or what?!

Or maybe just having the last text and not caring that much about leaving people in the twilight zone, or even enjoying it?

But after all this I pretty much have to do what @Chicagosuburbangirl-

said!-"

Chicagosuburbangirl

Contributor-

" ‎@Tx Starlight I will tell you what a friend told me when something is totally out of your control:

"Kiss it, bless it and give it up to God"

Or I would go nuts too!

[on the bay]

"Kiss it, bless it and give it up to God"

Or I would go nuts too!

[chrystaltree]

Huh?   It seems obvious to me, the people you are talking about aren't into texting.  You know, some people haven't jumped on that bandwagon.  I don't even see a problem.  They don't text....so....call them.  My middle sister is like that, it's not a matter of age, she's only 51 but she's not tethered to her cell phone like most people are today.  She takes her cell phone with her when she goes out but it's really just as a safety measure. When she's home, the phone is on but it's in her bedroom or her handbag.  My guess is, she checks her texts every few days so when any of us has something important or timely to say to her; we call her on her land line.  And hope it doesn't go to voicemail because she doesn't check that very often either.  We have to take people as they are.