How do you explain heartbreak?

sarahpanda · ‎03-11-2010

My DH will be passing from this life into the next in a matter of just a few days. When I even think about it, the heartbreak is overwheling, awash in tears. Yesterday, someone said to me ' Well, we all have to die, he won't be suffering anymore'', blah, blah, blah. What she doesn't compute is I know all of that - but having my DH disappear from my life will be soul shaking for me - and the ''reasoning'' she is doling out to me simply doesn't help my shattered heart. I get the impression she's saying 'well, just think about this (above) and it won't hurt so bad. NOT !!

Travone · ‎10-14-2016

I think people don't know what to say so they often say the wrong things.

I will keep you, your hubby and your family in my prayers.

Death is not easy. God bless you all.

sligo · ‎10-20-2010

@sarahpanda, I am so sorry. This is a terrible time for you to go through. TRY to put good happy memories in your heart. It may make you more sad .It won't make loss easier but you can thank God you have these thoughts. Will be thinking of you every day. Always, Sligo

DSD2 · ‎01-09-2016

My heart goes out to you. May God bless you and guide you through this heartbreaking chapter in your life.

In moments of tragedy, well intentioned people often put their worst foot forward and are unkind and insensitive. If one doesn't know what to say, I wish they would simply say "I'm so sorry" which is sympathetic, and empathetic.

Of course you will be shattered, and will grieve inconsolably. I hope you are able to surround yourself with family and friends who will lift you up during this dark time.

Sending prayers and support your way.

I am still oxox · ‎03-09-2010

May his memory be a blessing to all who know him. Deepest sympathy and condolences

Stop being afraid of what could go wrong and start being positive what could go right.

Flying Dove · ‎06-04-2014

I am so very sorry for the deep hurt you must be feeling. I can't even imagine your pain. It just has to hurt so very bad. I will keep you and your husvand in my prayers.

BirkiLady · ‎02-22-2015

@sarahpanda

There are no words for someone like that. If you have to explain your heart hurts and your life is empty without him, she doesn't deserve an explanation.
Trust me, the majority of people will understand and offer heartfelt compassion and words of comfort to ease the pain. I've been there and it does hurt to the core.
Take your time grieveing, but remember to continue to live. You will smile and laugh again.
You will even blossom with time and surprise yourself at the beauty and joy of being alive.

Keeping you and your husband in my thoughts and prayers.
Sending warm hugs and blessings as you face the difficult days ahead.

Money screams; wealth whispers.

Patriot3 · ‎06-07-2010

@sarahpanda wrote:
My DH will be passing from this life into the next in a matter of just a few days. When I even think about it, the heartbreak is overwheling, awash in tears. Yesterday, someone said to me ' Well, we all have to die, he won't be suffering anymore'', blah, blah, blah. What she doesn't compute is I know all of that - but having my DH disappear from my life will be soul shaking for me - and the ''reasoning'' she is doling out to me simply doesn't help my shattered heart. I get the impression she's saying 'well, just think about this (above) and it won't hurt so bad. NOT !!

@sarahpanda Sooo sorry!! Be alone w/your wonderful memories. Grieve at your own speed. God Bless!

geezerette · ‎03-16-2010

It's a horrible experience and I'm sorry you and your husband are experiencing it.❤️

People do generally mean well, but as stated, they're uncomfortable with the subject and emotions that go with it and don't know what to say. The desire is to try and alleviate your pain, which of course, no one can do.

I wish I could say something to ease your pain.💔

PJinIA · ‎03-21-2010

I am so sorry that you and your husband have to go through this. I lost my husband to cancer in May of 2017 and though I had 3 years to prepare for the possibility, the last few days were a combination of fear, intense grief and denial. I told my sister I couldn't do it, I wouldn't possibly survive his death and funeral, yet somehow you find the strength to get through it. My favorite thing someone said to me is that you don't know how strong you are until you don't have a choice. My thoughts and prayers are with you now and in the days, weeks and months to come.