Among Friends

[Feliciti]

I guess this is a trend now, but I think it's wonderful. The daughter of friends had all her and her groom's grandmothers as flower girls (either 2 or 3 -- can't recall now), but it was adorable. They were dignified but also sassed it up a little, with just a slight sashaying walk and sort of a Mona Lisa smile. However you feel most comfortable doing it (playful or with total decorum) though, it would be so touching. We loved that their grandmothers were part of the ceremony. They wore something befitting their ages but elegant and dressy. I can't remember exactly what now.

[chrystaltree]

They probably saw it on FB, there's a whole bunch that going on now.  Personally, I find it demeaning because it comes across as joke that makes a child out of a grown women.  I do agree that honoring a grandmother is a loving thing to do but I think it should be done appropriately.  I've been to many weddings where the grandmother walks down the aisle just like the mothers, she wears a mother of the bride dress and gets to bask in the glory.  If you are uncomfortable with the "elderly flowergirl" thing, perhaps you can have another family member suggest another way to make you a part of their day.  It might be a little "touchy" if you say it.  

[Desertdi]

I really think something like a "senior bridesmaid" would be more appropriate

[susan kay]

Just watched a recent video from the Today show with grandmothers as flower girls.  I didn't realize it was becoming a popular thing.  If there are the traditional bridesmaids and Maid of Honor, going back to my post about a name change, what about "Special Attendant", "Honored Attendant"?

[chrystaltree]

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@susan kay wrote:

Just watched a recent video from the Today show with grandmothers as flower girls.  I didn't realize it was becoming a popular thing.  If there are the traditional bridesmaids and Maid of Honor, going back to my post about a name change, what about "Special Attendant", "Honored Attendant"?

There's nothing new about grandmothers taking part in weddings, it's always been done but in the right way.  As "grandmother of the bride" or someone special to be honored.  I even went to wedding years ago where the brides grandmother was her matron of honor and the groom's grandfather was his best man.  I think one couple did the "flower girl" think for an 80 year old grandmother and like wildfire, it just took off.  I haven't seen one on FB that was done in an elegant or classy way yet.  I've only seen granny dressed like....a flower girl...lol  Not cool...lol

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[ID2]

Sorry but I would never do this. I hate that they refer to a 69 year old grandma as a flower girl. I would have thanked my grandson profusely but kindly bowed out. Grandma could be escorted down the isle with more dignity than using the term flower girl. 

[blackhole99]

I wouldn't worry about what people thought about someone your age being a flower girl. If it makes you that uncomfortable to play this part in their wedding, I would be honest with them and tell them how you feel. I'm sure it is not their intent to make you feel foolish or uncomfortable. Maybe they could come up with another way of including you in their wedding ceremony that would be meaningful to them and you.

[Sunshine Kate]

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@Calcgirl wrote:

My grandson is getting married and in many ways I have been like a mother to him.  He and his Fiance' have asked me to be their "flower girl".  I really don't want to do it but said yes because it meant so much to them. This was a few months ago, and as the day nears, I am getting cold feet.  I am a well taken care of 69 year old widow, but won't people laugh? Or should i not care as long as it means something to them?  What in the world do I wear????  The wedding is in the early part of November in Az and is a formal affair with the wedding itself in late afternoon. 

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I saw a story about a month ago on TV about a grandma being a flower "girl".  She looked lovely and it brought a smile to my face. 

As far as what to wear, I would ask your grandson and fiance what color dress you should wear and go from there.

Good luck and have fun.  

[kitcat51]

Not a honored place, not dignified...what nonsense. Walk down the isle with pride & remember that you made your loved ones happy on their special day, that's all that matters.