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[Susan in California]

@pattypeep

It is understandable how you felt. 

From reading your post, it sounds like you are

a kind person, and you are hoping your

brother's widow has found happiness.  It takes

a lot to accept that kind of change, especially

when you miss your brother.

The best to you and your family.  It is obvious your

former sister-in-law will always consider you family.

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Your story warmed my heart.

So glad your SIL was patient and understanding.

Your brother is smiling at you.

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@pattypeep wrote:

............brother's widow's new husband last night. My brother died four years ago. My SIL remarried a couple of years ago and I was very happy for her, but I just couldn't bring myself to meet her new husband.  I've kept in touch with her over the years and she's tried and tried to get us together. I just kept telling her that I wasn't ready. Well, it's Christmas and we had them over for dinner last night. It went well and my dh and I both really like him. My dh actually said that he reminds him of my brother, which he does. I'm not sure what I was afraid of. I guess that it would have been another huge reminder that my dear brother is gone. I'm glad that that hurdle is over.  Merry Christmas.

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@123SuzyQ123 wrote:

This topic brings up something totally different with me and I apologize for going off-topic for a bit.  But when there has been a death, like @pattypeep brother, I cannot see how the spouse can even think of finding someone new within the first 5 or 6 years!  If the person who died was your soulmate, you don't get over them, and you don't move on to someone else.  I might be one of the twenty people left who think this way!!  

I told my then-husband a few years ago that I would appreciate it if he waited 5 years before he started dating (if I pass before him), so that it would at least LOOK like he still carried me in his heart!   LOL

Thanks for letting me vent a bit.

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While I agree with you, we never know when that special person will come into our lives after loss.   I'll be a widow 5 years next month and I have no interest in dating and I don't see that that will change next month because it's "5 years"

But it doesn't matter what we think about it, it's what life brings us.    I'm glad for the SIL that she was lucky enough to find a special someone.   Life is tough when you are alone.