Feeling cheated

embgm · ‎07-02-2014

Two and a half years ago my husband had a small accident with my nephews fairly new motorcycle. Of course my nephew being young didn't want to go through his insurance and wanted us to pay out of pocket. There was no other vehicle involved so no worries there. The estimate came in rather high at a little over $2000.00. Of course I was very upset at both my husband for driving it and at the high dollar figure for the damages. Well while discussions were going on about the price of repairs my brother called us many times very upset causing tremendous stress on us to pay the $2000. After a few days of discussion despite feeling the estimate was too much we paid my nephew and he got the bike fixed.

Now push ahead to Christmas night 2016 the bike accident came up. I said " I still can't believe how much those repairs cost" . My nephew said to me and I Quote" Uncle Joe's damage was only $1100. The rest of the damage was mine". I was shocked! Since there were so many people around I ended the conversation but now I feel I should privately confront my nephew. I am hurt and angry. Haven't mentioned it to my husband yet. We are a very close family and see each other often and don't want to rock the boat but feel he should refund $945.00 to us. Should I keep the peace or not?

JJ · ‎04-15-2010

i would bring it up. Why shouldn't you? IF they cheated you, you shouldnt be blamed for rocking the boat.

sandraskates · ‎06-26-2014

Wow - what a question. Discuss with your husband first and get his feedback.

But that is a lot of money and I'd want it back too.

You may have to go to small claims court to get it though; check the statute of limitations in your city.

cherry · ‎03-09-2010

I think your first mistake was , to agree to, not let the insurance pay for it.

It sounds like your nephew is a scoundrel.

I don't know how to advise you. You must live with the decision, not me.

However, I personally ,would ask for a refund. He needs to know that if you cheat someone , you must pay the piper

libbyannE · ‎10-27-2010

@cherry wrote:
I think your first mistake was , to agree to, not let the insurance pay for it.

It sounds like your nephew is a scoundrel.

I don't know how to advise you. You must live with the decision, not me.

However, I personally ,would ask for a refund. He needs to know that if you cheat someone , you must pay the piper

@cherry

I totally agree.

chrystaltree · ‎05-10-2010

I'd keep the peace and say nothing, what's done is done and you and your husband are partly at fault. More so than your nephew. You should have insisted that he go through his insurance and after the insurance paid, you should have paid the the difference. So that nephew would have no out of pocket, you rhusband did have the accident. OR....you should have insisted that the get 3 estimates and you should have paid the less expensive one. You failed to protect yourself and now it's too late. The nephew told you that he incurred some of the damage but get real, if you bring this up to him and demand a refund, he's just going to back track. He's going to say you misunderstood or that he never said any such thing. And you won't be able to prove that he said it. He's unscrupulous....but you and hubby were careless and too trusting. People can only take advantage of us if we let them. Why start a big family row when there is nothing to be gained?

AuntG · ‎03-09-2010

I'd not bring it up. Lesson learned is that you should have ran it through insurance.

MsLomo · ‎03-09-2010

Ouch ... I'd be upset, too. I would get together with your husband, your nephew, and your brother to be sure all present know what your nephew admitted. I'd ask your brother and nephew to do the right thing. You and your husband are owed the nephew's share of $900.

cherry · ‎03-09-2010

It sounds to me ,like your nephew was deliberately taunting you

embgm · ‎07-02-2014

Cherry yes now I know the morals of my nephew. He was 24 at the time. We physically bad the dealerships estimate in our hands we just didn't realize that my nephew had already damaged the bike himself. We were talked into not dealing with his insurance so his premiums wouldn't rise. Big mistake on our part. Trying to keep the peace cost us plenty! My husband would definitely confront him. I just want this to be between us and my nephew and not have my brother get involved like he did in the beginning.