@River Song wrote:
@Grace729 wrote:
This may sound different yet see if you can not make anyone wrong, yourself or the others. Allow. Allow the hurt to be there without the addition of a story. Feeling left out is different than I am being left out. Acceptance of what is transforms. Resistance creates persistence. Acceptance doesn't mean you do nothing it just allows rather than forcing a solution. I have been taught what is in my way is the way. Make friends with it and the form of it will change. You are not what is happening you are the space in which everything happens. Observe the feelings then without thought, labels, interpretations and this to shall pass. Be gentle with you
New Age psycho-babble. I am widowed and this type of rambling nonsense cloaked as 'advice' is not helpful.
Actually it can be very helpful. Face reality. Yes being left out hurts. Go ahead and acknowledge that. But if you don't know the reason, don't make one up and then dwell on it, thus making yourself more miserable.
If it helps to discuss it to get the real reason, do it. But finally, whatever you do, accept the reality of the situation and move on. Find other things/activities/people to spend time on/with and make yourself happy. If you insist that someone change to make you happy, you never will be.