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[LavernLuvsShoes]

I would really like to know who started this "tradition" and why?

What is the point of smashing wedding cake in the face of the person you have just publicly committed to "loving and honoring" for the rest of your life?

[Tinkrbl44]

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@LavernLuvsShoes wrote:

I would really like to know who started this "tradition" and why?

What is the point of smashing wedding cake in the face of the person you have just publicly committed to "loving and honoring" for the rest of your life?

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@LavernLuvsShoes 

Good question.

Piggy-backing on that question, when did public marriage proposals become a good idea?  It's a special, loving and intimate moment in a couple's life, and for some it's become a spectator sport ... being done in sports arenas etc.   How awful.

I only know one woman whose guy proposed to her at a picnic of about 30 people attending .... he later admitted to proposing with a bunch of people there, hoping she'd be too embarrassed to say no.   

Ugh.

[haddon9]

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@Tinkrbl44 wrote:

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@LavernLuvsShoes wrote:

I would really like to know who started this "tradition" and why?

What is the point of smashing wedding cake in the face of the person you have just publicly committed to "loving and honoring" for the rest of your life?

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@LavernLuvsShoes 

Good question.

Piggy-backing on that question, when did public marriage proposals become a good idea?  It's a special, loving and intimate moment in a couple's life, and for some it's become a spectator sport ... being done in sports arenas etc.   How awful.

I only know one woman whose guy proposed to her at a picnic of about 30 people attending .... he later admitted to proposing with a bunch of people there, hoping she'd be too embarrassed to say no.   

Ugh.

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s a@Tinkrbl44 I agree!  I knew someone who has a son that planned to propose by the Christmas tree at Rockefeller Center.  The girlfriend didn't realize it but the whole family....his & hers were there to see it. 

Why have proposals become spectator sports the last several years?  It should be a very special & private moment but instead it has to be a show and who can outdo the next person.

ETA: UGH!  I know someone who got engaged but had not gotten the ring yet.  To be sure they were getting a good ring & value both sets of parents went ring shopping with the couple.  I think that is really bizarre!

[embgm]

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@Venezia wrote:

I've never understood this juvenile "tradition".  I have seen some clips, where the bride said no, but the groom went ahead and did it anyway.  I've often wondered how long the marriage lasted.  (In my case, it would've ended there and then...as in "don't even think about it"!)

I did see a video online where parents were celebrating their child's first birthday.  The husband kept trying to get the baby to smash its face into the cake - apparently, another ridiculous new "tradition".

When the baby didn't cooperate, the husband picked the whole cake up and smashed it into his wife's face, even as she was telling him "NO!"  She was furious - said she'd just gotten into her beautiful dress for the party and he did that?  Cake all over her face, in her hair, on her dress, everywhere.

What kind of jerk does that?  I'll be filing the divorce papers.  (I've never liked those who play "practical jokes" or pranks on others.  Thankfully, my DH and I agree on that!)

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        We have the tradition of giving a baby on his first birthday a small cake for him to dig into, but never to push it on the baby's face. Most times it's the baby's first time tasting anything so sweet. Baby usually digs in and does get icing on his face ,hands and arms and makes some cute faces enjoying the cake. But mom and dad are quickly there to clean up the birthday baby!

[Tissyanne]

And... I never have liked letting a baby tear into a cake either.

[shoptilyadropagain]

I suppose if they are both in agreement that it's OK, it shouldn't matter to me but I really don't care for it when it happens at weddings I've attended.

[LavernLuvsShoes]

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@Tinkrbl44 wrote:

Piggy-backing on that question, when did public marriage proposals become a good idea?  It's a special, loving and intimate moment in a couple's life, and for some it's become a spectator sport

I know, right!? - Have you seen the videos of the Proposals that were done on a mountaintop, in a hot air balloon, or in bodies of water, when the guy drops the ring?

I say, serves them right - What a really dumb idea - What's the worse that could happen? (LOL)

[speedy girl]

I've never liked the tradition of cake smashing, don't really understand it. We agreed at our wedding no smashing and we stuck to it!! 

[Queen of shop]

@Sunshine Kate  I never liked the cake smashing thing. So disrespectful.