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[Jessie913]

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@willomenia wrote:

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@bargainsgirl wrote:

We just got an invite to a nephew's wedding a few hours away.  Included was the wedding website etc...so we checked out the registry.  One choice was to "donate" to their "first house fund".  I never saw anything like it!  But as hubby pointed out, what is the difference if you give to that or just give a monetary gift (like we got most of!).  I guess that is one way of looking at it.  Just caught me off guard.  They sure do things differently these days!!

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I wouldn't  even attend a wedding that wold request this! Thee people are so rude, that it's disgusting.

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It is not the only thing on a registry. My daughter put many different items on her registry at all price points. Some even under 10.00   Plenty to choose from if you would like to give a gift when you are INVITED to a bridal shower. You should not attend a shower/wedding without a gift.  That is what is tacky!

[CelticCrafter]

While may be "thing" these days, it's tacky.

Lately I've been seeing brides and moms-to-be looking for venues for "their" showers or favors or decorations.  At least pretend to have it thrown by someone else.

[Love to Run]

Oh geez, offering guests the option of contributing funds towards a specified goal is a lot less tacky than the age-old practice of pinning money on the bride or passing around a cash purse. We recently attended a friend's daughter's wedding. The couple had an extensive registry, but we chose to contribute to their home fund. We felt blessed to be a part of the celeration and to be able to help a young couple gain their economic footing--so much more satisfying than a toaster oven or place setting.

[VanSleepy]

I always give a check as a wedding gift and whatever they use it for is none of my business.  But, I would not make a "donation" for a specified purchase. Maybe that makes no sense but it's how I feel lol.

[RetRN]

I choose to buy them a gift from their bridal registry.