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[Sooner]

We each have our own accounts and joint accounts and we both pay bills.  Him some, me some.  I paid off the first house!  Back in the day it was important for a woman to establish credit.  

It isn't something we "decided" to do, just worked out that we both pay some of the bills.  Never was a big deal.

[ChynnaBlue]

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@Karnerblue wrote:

I guess I am the odd one out.  He has his account and his money is his.  I pay my own bills.  I have never had access to his account(s).  I have no idea how much he earns.  He does not share that information.  It's been that way for 25 years. 

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This is the man who scares you, who makes you feel anxious about making the smallest mistake? Controlling money and non-disclosure are additional signs of a classic abuser. The more I hear about your husband, the more I worry for you.

[Karnerblue]

Sharing is the way it should be ... that's my thought.  However, that only works if both people are on the same page.

[Karnerblue]

@Zita, I agree.  Our entire relationship has been dangerous to my health and the marriage in general. 

[chickenbutt]

I email him the total amount for the bills that have come in each week, he puts the money in my checking account, and I process the payments.  

We pay them as they come in so they are always paid 2-3 weeks before they are due.

[Cakers3]

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@chihuahuamom wrote:

I am guessing many of the women do.  I have always done the financial part of our marriage, and I do enjoy it.  Because of my DH's unexpected illness and his early retirement, I have gotten very very specific with our budget (had to). I guess that is what prompted this question-I just finished bills for this second part of the month.  I account for almost every penny.

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I hope your Dh is doing ok. 

[151949]

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@deepwaterdotter wrote:

I spend and he pays the bills.

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As it should be.

[Lady Elaine]

My husband and I share this responsibility.  He pays mortgage, utilities etc and I pay my student loan, groceries, gas, clothing and home items. 

[Schnauzers4Me]

I pay the bills. He knows what they are but really doesn't want to be bothered with them.

[lulu2]

I've always paid our personal bills.