borderline personality disorder

panda1234 · ‎04-27-2015

My 20 year old daughter was just diagnosed. It has taken many years, she has been going to the psychiatrist since she was 5. This is sooo hard to live with for all of us especially her.I know this is hard to treat with a high suicide rate, she started DBT therapy 2 months ago. Just reaching out to see if anyone has experience with this disorder.

bonnielu · ‎03-11-2010

Family member experience. As long as she has help, medicine, she has a good chance of being okay.

It is hard on the family. Be there for her. Been there, done that and at the end of the day you have to know you have done everything in your power to help.

Prayers and good wishes to you and your family ------

on the bay · ‎03-09-2010

Yes a family member.

But you know what I find strange? Ours was well into the twenties before this diagnosis. But all before it was ADD.

I'm wondering if this "borderline personality disorder" is the new favorite lump it all into this diagnosis thing.

Sorry to sound so skeptical but I remember thinking at the time-that doesn't sound right (I of course read all I could about it) but what do I know?

Only that we have lived with it for over twenty years.

If possible, I would get a second opinion.

How did you feel about this? And was she diagnosed with something else before this since she was seeing a pyschiatrist since 5? (and ours had problems starting then or before too!)

"If you walk the footsteps of a stranger, you'll learn things you never knew. Can you sing with all the voices of the mountains? can you paint with all the colors of the wind?"

bonnielu · ‎03-11-2010

Yes, it started with a diagnosis of ADD which went to bi-polar. Seems they don't get it right from the get go. (family members (2)

I do have a rant. If a person would fall off a roof and break every bone in their body they would get all kinds of help, support and whatever. But a mental illness... hands off... must be something wrong with them. Stay back... whoa.... stigma city.

Okay to be sick but not mentally sick. As for me I am a free spirit and was once told by my doctor that I had two choices... live with who I am, anxiety and all or he could medicate me the rest of my life... and I would never be who I was supposed to be and never know the difference. I chose to BE ME and let ME do what I could do to Pay it Forward. That was over 50 years ago. Doing just fine.

panda1234 · ‎04-27-2015

@bonnielu wrote:
Yes, it started with a diagnosis of ADD which went to bi-polar. Seems they don't get it right from the get go. (family members (2)

I do have a rant. If a person would fall off a roof and break every bone in their body they would get all kinds of help, support and whatever. But a mental illness... hands off... must be something wrong with them. Stay back... whoa.... stigma city.

Okay to be sick but not mentally sick. As for me I am a free spirit and was once told by my doctor that I had two choices... live with who I am, anxiety and all or he could medicate me the rest of my life... and I would never be who I was supposed to be and never know the difference. I chose to BE ME and let ME do what I could do to Pay it Forward. That was over 50 years ago. Doing just fine.

Our culture does not put much value or money when it comes to mental illness. Glad to hear you are doing well...gives me hope.

panda1234 · ‎04-27-2015

@on the bay wrote:
Yes a family member.
But you know what I find strange? Ours was well into the twenties before this diagnosis. But all before it was ADD.
I'm wondering if this "borderline personality disorder" is the new favorite lump it all into this diagnosis thing.
Sorry to sound so skeptical but I remember thinking at the time-that doesn't sound right (I of course read all I could about it) but what do I know?
Only that we have lived with it for over twenty years.
If possible, I would get a second opinion.
How did you feel about this? And was she diagnosed with something else before this since she was seeing a pyschiatrist since 5? (and ours had problems starting then or before too!)

Her doctor she has had from day one did not want to put this label on her, it can look like alot of different things. As a baby she could never self sooth and as a 20 year old she still can not. We have to lay down in bed most nights to get her calmed down, she will usually fall asleep by 3. She is on meds for sleep, depression, mood and thyroid. She is not capable of working or going to school and no friends.

panda1234 · ‎04-27-2015

@bonnielu wrote:
Family member experience. As long as she has help, medicine, she has a good chance of being okay.

It is hard on the family. Be there for her. Been there, done that and at the end of the day you have to know you have done everything in your power to help.

Prayers and good wishes to you and your family ------

Yes, the only peace we will ever have is knowing we have done everything possible. It is a financial struggle but we are doing it for her.

LonestarBabs · ‎06-26-2011

My ex-husband had this, although he refused to admit it and get help. I did all the research, learned as much as I could, and gave him a big notebook full of information so he could see I wasn't just picking on him. Tried to be supportive but the roller coaster wore me out and I finally filed for divorce. I don't think he ever received treatment, which is a shame because the quality of his life -- and those around him -- could have been so much better.

Meds and proper treatment can really help, so I applaud your efforts to support your daughter.

hckynut · ‎03-10-2010

I don't understand the use of the word "borderline" when it comes to, what I assume, is some form of psychiatric condition?

I have been diagnosed with Panic/Anxiety Disorder and Clinical Depression. Those terms I understand and will be working to contain every day remaining in my life.

Borderline, the word, I know the definition. Now i know what "borderline hypertension" means because that is based on numbers. I also understand "borderline CHF", as that too is based on the numerical functioning of the heart.

During my 7+ days in a mental Ward with several classes every day, I never heard any of the doctors, who were mostly Psychiatrists, use the word borderline anything.

What I heard was you are, or you are not. Never heard of Borderline Bi-Polar or Borderline-Depression. Got me wondering just exactly what that word means when used as "Borderline Personality Disorder".

hckynut(john)

CatsyCline · ‎07-24-2013

my extended family member has seen therapists and BPD was mentioned. since birth she has always had mega melt-downs and is controlling . jealous . she cannot self-soothe and obsesses with people. BF broke up with her due to her needines. everyone has to walk on eggshells around her . i haven't been to visit there in a few years now because the last time i was there she went off on me for spilling a small cup of water. that was not the only thing, she got into a blow out with her mother and i was dragged into it. she was still in HS at the time and basically ruled the roost. a lot of denial going on. she self medicates with substances. . she has a revolving door of friendships . no one can be around her for very long becuase she has an intense fear of abandonment.

1991 book " I Hate You Don't Leave Me " is a good resource to start with. there are many books on the topic