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halfpint1 · ‎03-10-2010

I tried calling my son and I don't know if he has his phone or is ignoring me for he doesn't want to cope this time. In the past when i cant be by myself I wslkd 5 blocks after minight to sleep at his house but it is noisy and I aftaid what the machine if it is that could do plus my cats are here

and I don't want to leave them here with an unknown noise if anything should happen.

MarkeieMark · ‎06-24-2012

I would just go to bed.

hckynut · ‎03-10-2010

@halfpint1

I am sorry, but I am not sure I am getting this whole story, I know I don't understand it. Thus I really don't have anything I can say that might help you. Hope everything works out for you,

hckynut(john)

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AuntG · ‎03-09-2010

Hi @halfpint1. From reading another thread, I believe you are an 80 year old widow whose air conditioning unit is loud so you cannot sleep. I take it that your only relative (a son) is annoyed with you. I'm sorry that you feel poorly, but I urge you to put in some earplugs and try to get some sleep. Your son may need to be alert for his job so it's probably best not to bother him. I wish you well.

ID2 · ‎06-25-2012

Huh??

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Plaid Pants2 · ‎03-14-2015

@halfpint1 wrote:
I tried calling my son and I don't know if he has his phone or is ignoring me for he doesn't want to cope this time. In the past when i cant be by myself I wslkd 5 blocks after minight to sleep at his house but it is noisy and I aftaid what the machine if it is that could do plus my cats are here
and I don't want to leave them here with an unknown noise if anything should happen.

What????

tansy · ‎01-02-2011

@halfpint1, you sound so upset. I haven't read all of your other thread but maybe you, and hopefully your son, should talk with your primary care physician.

freakygirl · ‎07-03-2014

@AuntG, i appreciate the kind and sympathetic tone of your reply.

mistriTsquirrel · ‎07-17-2010

Hi, @halfpint1. It sounds like you are having anxiety about being alone and the sound heightens your anxiety. It also sounds like you are concerned about your cats dealing with the noise if you are not around to soothe them, or that the machine could explode or catch fire?

I hope you were able to get some sleep. Do you have a landlord or neighbor who could help with the noise? Or are you able to call a professional to have it looked at? Is there a way to turn the thing off (assuming you don't need it to run)?

As far as the anxiety about being alone, I think that is common when you are used to having someone around all the time, and then they are gone. I don't have cable anymore, but I often fall asleep to a YouTube video because the sound comforts me. Talk radio would be another thing that could make you feel less like you're by yourself.

You may want to check with your local hospice organization to see if they run grief groups. Many do that for free regardless of whether or not your husband was under their care before his death. If that is not available, you can contact someone at NAMI.org to find a group to join or a counselor who can help you adjust to your new situation. Although NAMI is a mental health organization, you don't have to have a mental illness to seek help, advice or guidance from them. They may be able to connect you with resources that you didn't think a mental health organization would dabble in. If you can't find a ride to a group or counseling appointment, hospice or NAMI may be able to help you with that as well, or direct you to someone who can help you.

It's also worth thinking about checking out ways to connect with others socially. Maybe a church group or a seniors group in your area would be a good way to not feel so alone, and they also may be able to help you with transportation if you need it.

If these are things that don't seem like anything you are willing to pursue at this time, there are always online groups. This board is not always the kindest, but there are boards that deal with grief specifically, and the issues that go hand-in-hand with grief (like anxiety). A Google search for online grief forums should help you find them.

I don't know if AARP has resources that can help you, but you could call them and find out.

Night time can be a prime time for anxiety, and if you're having a lot of anxiety at night that counseling or being social during the day doesn't address, you may want to talk to your doctor, who can give you something to take the edge off of nighttime anxiety.

Just brainstorming here. I apologize if I've misinterpreted your situation. I hope you're able to find relief.

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