Re: What Should I Do?

Annabellethecat66 · ‎03-12-2010

My guess is you can thank (UNFORTUNATELY) the fact that we all have to not let anyone listen to our medical issues (whatever it is called).

I personally think it is so ignorant I want to spit. If I were you, I'd have my parents sign something giving you the right to authorize any and all medical care necessary for their well-being.

You're their daughter, it's not like you are going to do something that would harm them.

The next time you have to call emergency or talk to anyone about the care of your parents whip out this paper (have it notarized) saying you are authorized to speak for them.

You are going to save yourself a lot of grief and frustration if you'd just do this. Have several copies made (you might even want to have several originals made) as some places won't accept copies (we found this out).

Things have gotten so stupid about everything (don't get me started) and don't you people start in about people's identities.

It's stupid. I'll be in line at the Dr's office standing WAY back in line. The other day there were 3 of us in line. Each person was talking so loud (nothing personal like ID numbers, etc, but their next appointment) it probably went down the hallway.

If we'd just go after those who steal identities and other people's business (gee why is there a need for these people to have it, I wonder) then we wouldn't have to worry about problems like the OP commented on.

Phew! I've signed just about everything I can to give my daughter's the authority to tell the Drs what to do if something happens and I can't think for myself. I'm not worried about them doing me in in a hurry (I have three wonderful adult daughters). They will inherit a lot of money when I go. I've tried to give it to them now and they won't take it.

I mention the last few sentences because it shows show stupid all of this is. My guess is the OP only loves her parents and wants to care for them. She's not going to do or say anthing that harms them.

It's not the fault of the medical personell. They can lose their licenese if they don't go directly to the Father.

Change some of these stupid laws or find a way to go after people who BREAK the stupid laws. It's always the law abiding people who suffer.

Like I said things have gotten really stupid.

chrystaltree · ‎05-10-2010

If you don't provide your name and contact information. your complaint is meaningless. They won't even discuss the matter with the EMT. It will be received and ignored. I would just let it go because your father receive the care he needed, the EMTs were kind and professional with your father. You thought the guy was arrogant but that doesnt mean he did anything wrong. There's no law against being arrogant. You were under stress, it was probably just a personality clash. We all deal with a host of people throughout our lives, every now and then, we come acrosd someone who just rubs us the wrong way.

Annabellethecat66 · ‎03-12-2010

chrystall you said much better what I TRIED to say (through my rant) and in much less words.

Well done.

Stray · ‎04-20-2013

Let it go, what you think is relevant may not be at all. The EMTs are trained to observe and if the person is coherent, they would like to evaluate mental status as well by talking directly to the patient. Sometimes when we are upset and under stress, we perceive arrogance but it might just be a professional demeanor. As long as he/she cared for your father and things turned out well, there is no issue. If the EMT were rude or abusive to you or your father, that would be cause but the EMT might be excellent at his job and has a serious demeanor as it should be; it is not an easy job and a stressful one.

MomCat · ‎09-12-2010

After years of caring for my parents, I dealt with many medical situations. I learned the best way to help them was to follow the lead of the medical personnel. Dealing with an emergency is a highly stressful situation, and it is so easy to be overly helpful. It is so important to not let personalities get in the way. Yours, or theirs.

kahootz · ‎03-11-2010

On 3/15/2015 momcat said:
After years of caring for my parents, I dealt with many medical situations. I learned the best way to help them was to follow the lead of the medical personnel. Dealing with an emergency is a highly stressful situation, and it is so easy to be overly helpful. It is so important to not let personalities get in the way. Yours, or theirs.

I don't necessarily agree with following the lead of the medical personnel. When my dad was in the hospital years ago, I had a horrible doctor who I literally caught rolling his eyes as I was discussing my dad's care (which wasn't good). I did complain in this case to the hospital administrator who spoke to the doctor. Our parents definitely need a health advocate because if I hadn't been there, I am convinced my dad never would have made it out alive. In this instance of the OP however I did agree she should forget about it and move on since the incident is over and done with and not worth her stress to pursue.