Question for those who may know

Puzzle Piece · ‎06-29-2010

I have recently become acquainted with a gal through my volunteer work. She is 55. When she opens her mouth to speak, it's an extremely loud booming voice that irritates those that hear her - which is just about everyone. It is abnormal. She can lower her voice but she won't. She has been spoken to on this matter as well. Others shun her and move away and don't want anything to do with her as whatever she speaks about is heard almost 'round the world'. Is this a disorder? Can it be medicated? Or is some type of device to be worn by her? Would a minor surgery help her? It's become an issue for me now as she views me as a friend - being that no one has anything to do with her because of her loud voice.

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Yardlie · ‎03-10-2010

I know someone like that. In her case, she is just an angry, controlling individual who likes to try to intimidate people. When she finds out it won't work, she lowers her voice.

I'm not sure what the situation is in your case. I doubt there is any surgery or medication that will help. Maybe she has hearing problems???

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chickadee · ‎10-29-2010

Does she live with someone who is hard of hearing. Or is she hard of hearing herself? I know someone who talks very loud, but her husband is almost deaf. She is so used to shouting at him that she doesn't realize that she is shouting when the talks to everyone else.

lovesrecess · ‎03-14-2010

She does sound like she could have a hearing issue....if there is a way to tactfully suggest she have a hearing test that might help.

Puzzle Piece · ‎06-29-2010

This gal is not hard of hearing, nor is she angry. Because of her disorder she comes across as controlling, pushy and a bully. However, you can just tell her 'NO' or to 'Stop' and she does. Trouble is, you have to shout louder than her. It's very unusual.

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Puzzle Piece · ‎06-29-2010

Why won't this situation just go away. I have been approached by some others to 'talk with this gal'. Others avoid her like the plague and just find her repulsive. She is obese, sloppy, and careless in her appearance as well. Her application of make-up is a fright. Men have just openly said to her she is a bossy, pushy, loud person and that's why she doesn't attract friends or male companions. She is completely lacking in social skills. She has bored so many with her loud outspoken interests that others just rudely walk away and ignore her (if they can). What to do. What to do.

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151949 · ‎03-09-2010

On 3/3/2014 Love Roses said:
Why won't this situation just go away. I have been approached by some others to 'talk with this gal'. Others avoid her like the plague and just find her repulsive. She is obese, sloppy, and careless in her appearance as well. Her application of make-up is a fright. Men have just openly said to her she is a bossy, pushy, loud person and that's why she doesn't attract friends or male companions. She is completely lacking in social skills. She has bored so many with her loud outspoken interests that others just rudely walk away and ignore her (if they can). What to do. What to do.

This seems like she has a personality disorder and needs a therapist.

Sooner · ‎03-10-2010

On 3/3/2014 Love Roses said:
Why won't this situation just go away. I have been approached by some others to 'talk with this gal'. Others avoid her like the plague and just find her repulsive. She is obese, sloppy, and careless in her appearance as well. Her application of make-up is a fright. Men have just openly said to her she is a bossy, pushy, loud person and that's why she doesn't attract friends or male companions. She is completely lacking in social skills. She has bored so many with her loud outspoken interests that others just rudely walk away and ignore her (if they can). What to do. What to do.

As others do, you need to rudely walk away and ignore her. Sometimes others have issues we simply aren't equipped to deal with, and have to refuse to let it become us being victimized.

I spent most of my life being sweet to the person nobody else would talk to and finally decided I don't have to do this. Most of these people are so self absorbed that don't know you exist anyway. They will hang on to you and run you nuts.

poppinfresh · ‎03-10-2010

jam4truth has a valid point. Perhaps this woman is living with or caring for someone who is hard of hearing. My dad is very hard of hearing and he is around us alot. Because of his hearing loss and refusal to wear hearing aids, my husband and I tend to really talk loudly when he is around and unfortunatly this has carried through to our regular lives. We so appreciate it when someone mentions it to us .

chickenbutt · ‎03-09-2010

That's a tough situation! I'm extremely sensory-sensitive so I'd just have to stay far away. I have extreme tinnitus and, while I cannot hear if people speak too low, if people are loud-talkers, or have a shrill voice, it's like a physical attack on my ears and I cannot handle it.

My husband has a rather booming voice and sometimes, especially on the phone, he yells. He doesn't realize it unless I say something. It's tough because you don't want to be rude (even if the loud-talker is being rude, no sense in stooping) but when people don't have an 'indoors voice' it's too much to be around.

I don't see how it can be a 'condition'. If she's not hard of hearing, or having to yell because of wearing a headset or something (like working in a super loud environment), it just seems like she's making the choice to yell.

There is this young lady at our vet's office and, while she isn't a loud-talker, she has THE most shrill voice I've ever heard. She is just so nice but when she starts to talk it almost blows me across the room. I had to learn to anchor myself after the first time.