Wellness

[Moonchilde]

What would I call it?

Their own business.

[151949]

I remember one day getting a car accident patient from the ER - when the nurse called report she told me he was an unusual fellow and to expect some surprises. As he was not conscious I thought that was an odd thing to say. When he got to the floor and I was undressing him -  he had on ladies clothes and underwear, incl. a bra under his men's suit, and his entire body was shaved clean - not one hair on this person below the neck, which was good for me as it saved me having to shave him to insert lines etc. later. I believe he passed away without ever waking up so I never got to talk with him.I'd call that a double life.

[qbetzforreal]

Most people have a public and personal persona.  That's not a double life.  A mental health disorder might cause someone to lead two different kinds of lives.

[Q4u]

I don't believe a personality disorder would necessarily apply to someone who decides to lead a secret life.  

"A personality disorder is a type of mental disorder in which you have a rigid and unhealthy pattern of thinking, functioning and behaving. A person with a personality disorder has trouble perceiving and relating to situations and people. This causes significant problems and limitations in relationships, social activities, work and school."

Mayo clinic

Of course there are myriad of sub-sets and cross-overs, but you'd think if someone had difficulty relating to situations and people, a second family (and dealing with everything and everyone) may not be an ability for someone with this disorder..... ?

[mom2four0418]

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@Lila Belle wrote:
We'll find out in the next few years.

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I think it is pretty obvious right now....

[sunshower]

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@Q4u wrote:

I don't believe a personality disorder would necessarily apply to someone who decides to lead a secret life.  

"A personality disorder is a type of mental disorder in which you have a rigid and unhealthy pattern of thinking, functioning and behaving. A person with a personality disorder has trouble perceiving and relating to situations and people. This causes significant problems and limitations in relationships, social activities, work and school."

Mayo clinic

Of course there are myriad of sub-sets and cross-overs, but you'd think if someone had difficulty relating to situations and people, a second family (and dealing with everything and everyone) may not be an ability for someone with this disorder..... ?

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That makes sense.Perhaps in the mix of sub sets, a lack of moral compass is leading the way not an actual pathology.

[game-on]

sunshower.... would you please tell me what inspired you to ask the question? 

I used to work in the mental health field.... am retired now.... and found that in childhood many people learned survival skills.  One of them was hiding parts of their lives.... the older they got the better they got at compartmentalizing.... and before they knew it, it was just the way they lived.... it often alienated them from the person/people they were closest to.... and they didnt know how to do it differently....

When they were found out, so to speak, they would panic.... many would run away from the people they loved rather than try to find another way to relate....

It is not easy to change patterns of relating...

[wildlifewitch]

A psychopath, narcissistic and antisocial personalities.

[Mindy D]

There are those with anti-social personality disorder that lead a double life. They might have two families and use the persons in each family for their convenience and personal gain. They might feign love and sympathy for their families but to them, the family members are merely objects to be used. Those with the disorder lack empathy, are deceitful and insincere, have poor judgement, do not learn from experience, lack responsibility, often fail to follow any life plan, can be charming, are glib, egocentric, posess superficial charm, are unreliable, lack remorse or a sense of shame, pretend to love but do not actually feel this, have poor insight, have problems with general interpersonal relationships, might engage in criminal behavior and trivialize sexual relationships. They lack a conscience, exploit others, are highly manipulative and have a disregard for the rights,  feelings and well-being of others. They are callous. They have shallow emotions. When they display love, compassion, warmth, tenderness it is feigned and serves some ulterior motive for them. They can be unmoved by experiences that would be upsetting or devastating to others. They can pretend to experience normal reactions to say, the death of a parent, but they really don't care...they just might pretend they feel this way in front of other family in order to get something or put something over on someone. Their promises should not be taken seriously because they really don't mean them. They often have contempt for other people's pain or misfortune and relish taking advantage of others. Stealing, cheating, childhood behavior problems, highly aggressive criminal activity, promiscuity, alcoholism, repeat criminal convictions, horrible child-rearing and parenting, physical abuse of others are all commonplace. They really don't  feel bad when they do something bad.

[febe1]

An excellent multi-tasker?