Re: I failed

drizzellla · ‎03-14-2010

Please don't say you failed. You are doing well by exercising.

Maybe it is time to form a new habit or two. I used to look forward to sitting down in the evening and having a tasty snack and watching TV. It was not a habit that helped my waistline.

So I decided I would eat the snack for breakfast instead. So instead of eating spinach artichoke dip at night - I ate it for breakfast. And I started to clean or fold clothes etc. instead of watching TV. Since my hands were busy, I ended up not eating an evening snack. I did not need one and did not miss it.

So the scale is going down instead of up. And I must admit that I feel better too. I am getting something accomplished so I don't have to go crazy trying to get it all done on the weekend. And except for an occasional show or movie I am not missing the TV.

violann · ‎03-10-2010

@tansy wrote:
Go for losing 15 pounds first, then tackle the next 15. I'm struggling to get rid of the 20 pounds that creeped back on me:/

Good thought, @tansy, or as I did, go for ONE POUND. Anybody can do that, and adter I did, I just repeated the process 84 more times!

Nobody "fails" OP- every glass that starts out "half empty" CAN be filled to the brim again!

hckynut · ‎03-10-2010

@Mistreatedbycs

It is up to you whether you want to say you failed, as opposed to having a setback, as almost everyone has if they live long enough.

I have always looked at my umteen sports injuries/2 heart attacks/2 episodes of Lung Blood Clots(PE), and several other life threatening issues as setbacks.

To me they were never failures while I was working days/weeks/months, and a couple, for well over a year to rehabilitate myself back to, what I considered for me, to be 100%. I am not one that even thinks about "poor or why me?), and I also do not accept the word failure for anything that can be overcome.

Sure, there were many times I thought to myself, is it worth it? And every time my answer to myself was an emphatic, yes. It is up to each individual to decide what they see as a failure versus a setback.

hckynut(john)

Ms X · ‎09-13-2012

@hckynut wrote:

@Mistreatedbycs

It is up to you whether you want to say you failed, as opposed to having a setback, as almost everyone has if they live long enough.

I have always looked at my umteen sports injuries/2 heart attacks/2 episodes of Lung Blood Clots(PE), and several other life threatening issues as setbacks.

To me they were never failures while I was working days/weeks/months, and a couple, for well over a year to rehabilitate myself back to, what I considered for me, to be 100%. I am not one that even thinks about "poor or why me?), and I also do not accept the word failure for anything that can be overcome.

Sure, many I thought to myself, is it worth it? And every time my answer to myself was an emphatic, yes. It is up to each individual to decide what they see as a failure versus a setback.

hckynut(john)

Well, @hckynut, are you not a Texan? Even us Yankees know that Texans are a breed apart!

Mistreatedbycs · ‎03-10-2010

Thank you for all the encouraging words, I am going to be aware of what and how much I eat. I have all my WW stuff (it was so crazy, the stuff "found me").

I opened a drawer and there's my point calculator, another drawer had the sheets of simply filling and all my old weekly handouts were there too....it's like it wanted to be found.

...and call me crazy, little things are happening too, I put a post it note up at my store desk for end of the month reminder, I kept postponing doing it and that note dropped a half of an inch right in front of me telling me you need to get it done now.

Mominohio · ‎08-08-2010

@qualitygal wrote:
@Mistreatedbycs, I recently accepted this just may be me at this age. I'm healthy. I intend to continue to eat right and for my health. It's not like I'm giving up and indulging back to the old habits. But a year and a half later the scale that WW said to not worry about got to the point it felt like punishments. So one day I just said look at your family history on how their bodies were. (If overweight, I don't want to give into that). But week after week to go into the scale as a judgment of my success for them made no sense. For those that WW works for that's wonderful and it did for me in the past. Due to back conditions and my age, I have to accept where I am for now. When it worked for me before, I could move a whole lot better. No matter the slogans, and chants...for me it's the acceptance. My goal is the health issue, not the scale. I'm done throwing that money away.

I simply don't believe in any program that requires/encourages weekly trips to the scale. It is the most defeating feeling to know that you are working hard at watching your food consumption and stepping up your exercise, yet loose one pound or maybe gain two.

I think more people are defeated by that than any help the overall 'diet' actually is.

Weighing in even once every couple of months, will usually show results that are more encouraging and help keep one on track better.

Short of doctors orders for some medical condition, having people with or without weight issues stepping on the scales daily or even weekly leads to (in my opinion) stress, frustration and obsessive (and unhealthy) behavior/views of weight issues. We are way too consumed with the number on the scale, instead of how we feel, what our other numbers are (BP, blood sugar, cholesterol, etc.), and how we are making small progress, or even just holding our own.

hckynut · ‎03-10-2010

@Mominohio wrote:
@qualitygal wrote:
@Mistreatedbycs, I recently accepted this just may be me at this age. I'm healthy. I intend to continue to eat right and for my health. It's not like I'm giving up and indulging back to the old habits. But a year and a half later the scale that WW said to not worry about got to the point it felt like punishments. So one day I just said look at your family history on how their bodies were. (If overweight, I don't want to give into that). But week after week to go into the scale as a judgment of my success for them made no sense. For those that WW works for that's wonderful and it did for me in the past. Due to back conditions and my age, I have to accept where I am for now. When it worked for me before, I could move a whole lot better. No matter the slogans, and chants...for me it's the acceptance. My goal is the health issue, not the scale. I'm done throwing that money away.

I simply don't believe in any program that requires/encourages weekly trips to the scale. It is the most defeating feeling to know that you are working hard at watching your food consumption and stepping up your exercise, yet loose one pound or maybe gain two.

I think more people are defeated by that than any help the overall 'diet' actually is.

Weighing in even once every couple of months, will usually show results that are more encouraging and help keep one on track better.

Short of doctors orders for some medical condition, having people with or without weight issues stepping on the scales daily or even weekly leads to (in my opinion) stress, frustration and obsessive (and unhealthy) behavior/views of weight issues. We are way too consumed with the number on the scale, instead of how we feel, what our other numbers are (BP, blood sugar, cholesterol, etc.), and how we are making small progress, or even just holding our own.

@Mominohio

As I have said to many over the years, a numbers only scale can be the worst enemy of those trying to lose weight. I think I explained it pretty well in another post in this thread. I think it was this thread.

hckynut(john)

Imadickens · ‎06-15-2016

Dear JustBling: I really wish you wouldn't think about it as failing! It sounds like you have been faced with lots of stressful situations! You made it through those, didn't you? Did you do what was needed of you for others? Yes? Then, you definitely did not fail at anything! You tried with WW and the gym but at that time you did all you could and selflessly put yourself on the back burner. Honestly, I'm not trying to give you a pass or an easy out. I'm serious. I've been there. Sometimes it takes every ounce of will power just go get through the day! If rewarding yourself with food kept you going, so be it! If you need to lose weight for your health I will urge you to hop back on that wagon and try every day until you are where you and your doctor feel comfortable. I don't want you to use these e nets as an excuse to keep hurting yourself, you were self-medicating to,get through those times. Ok. Now, you're through them I hope, so it's time to put you first. I can hear my WW coach wagging her finger at me and saying, " you must always put yourself first! You can't use stress as an excuse". She would be 100% correct. But, I don't think you were using it as an excuse as much as using it as a method to get through very challenging trials. That, sweet lady, is not failure but success! You got through difficult times. Others use wine, some use meds. Trust me, when the time is right you will choose to succeed at this as well! Good luck, God speed, and, please don't ever think you failed because you did something everyone has to do everyday just to live...eat!

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