Wellness

[sophiamaria2]

its looks like there is another poster w/very similar nic to mine...please no I am not that person (I also noticed there stuff got deleted?)

[luvingit]

I know medication has helped so many in this situation.

[ive been framed]

I'm so sorry to hear of your Dad's passing, Mistri. I've been gone awhile and this was the first place I looked to see how you are doing. Didn't expect this news. It is so good that you were with your Dad. He knew you were there. What a blessing you were to him! You have proven through your concerns and actions just how strong you actually are.

My DH and I were in Russia visiting our son. We went to a beautiful park, where I saw the one and only squirrel our entire trip! Cutest little thing with long tufts on its ears. Sitting in a tree, all alone. I wondered where all his friends were hiding. I thought of you instantly and said a little prayer.

(((HUGS)))

[Deb1010again]

Hi (((Mistri))), just checking in to see how you're doing. I know you were going to step away from this for a while. Just know many of us are still here for you.

[mistriTsquirrel]

Thank you all so much!!

I haven't been on lately for various reasons, but I am thankful for all of your kind thoughts and wishes.

Unfortunately, my brother and I aren't speaking. My mother seems to be functioning alright, but I know it will only last for as long as she can outrun grief, guilt, etc. I'm not functioning very well...I'm just existing.

I guess it's odd to say this, but, you know who I feel bad for? The family dog. Every time I see her, I think, "your daddy never would've left you voluntarily. Your daddy would be here if he could." I feel so bad for that little stinker. She has no idea what's going on, and that her daddy is gone forever.

I still feel like he could walk in the door to their home at any time, even though I watched him die.

I am in a fog that feels an awful lot like a nightmare.

[fortune]

Dear Mistri, I'm so sorry that you feel so bad and that your family members don't seem to be helping. You are in the grieving process now, and you will feel better if you don't expect too much from yourself right now. Does your "sister" act like anything is wrong, or is she just going about business as usual--being the Queen of the Realm?

Is your Mom up and about or is she in bed a lot. Have you moved back to your house? Are you working yet? After my son died, I felt a lot like you do. Although I did go back to work after about two weeks off. I found that one can only think of one thing at a time, and when I was working, it took my mind off things.

Working in your yard might be a good past-time. It will be therapeutic and you'll feel like you've accomplished something.

My thoughts have been with you and I hope I can be of help to you! You are a strong, smart, and capable person, Mistri! Have faith in yourself!!!

[dooBdoo]

Hi, ((((mistri)))). Thanks for checking in. I think about you every day.

There was a long thread about grief, with so much insight from compassionate posters. I wonder if it's still available? I'll see if I can locate it.

With each loss, I've felt the same way you do now... the disbelief it's true, the certainty I'd hear that person's voice the next time I answered the phone, I'd see their face the next time I walked into a room. For me it's like slogging through quicksand with a dense fog all around for a while. But it can be so different for each person, for each situation.

God bless you, sweet mistri. I hope your therapist will be helpful, and please continue to write your feelings even if you do so in a private journal.

[dooBdoo]

Here's the thread (and it was about all stages of grief) but it's closed for comments. Perhaps we would all benefit from a new thread?

Delayed grief....

http://community.qvc.com/forums/health+fitness/topic/383872/pagenumber/1/index.aspx

[newziesuzie]

((((Mistrisquirrel)))) we haven't posted together but I wanted you to know you're in my prayers.

[nightnurse]

I know what depression is like. I have been depressed for many years and recently became a widow. I do know that reading all the responses you have received would certainly help to make me feel better. I wish you all the best. I am sure everyone here does the same. Thanks for writing the post. It is always good to know you are not alone.