Suggestion Box

[Group 5 minus 1]

My Mothers.

[lisavh2]

I have.  You can decline to serve.  You don't have to do it.

[debic]

They possibly couldn't think of anyone else to put on.

I was put on my parents with my sister as co-executor.  She declined after my parent's passed.   It was hard enough doing it alone, I was thankful she did.

[PeterDM]

Most people who I know who are executors also have power of attorney, myself included.  I always thought the two duties went hand and hand.  I guess I learned something new.  I really don't look forward to carrying out this duty when the time comes.  

[Carmie]

Yes.  Surprise, surprise!  I had no idea the position was mine.

it wasn't difficult.  The attornrey did most of the work.  I was also paid by the estate I think about 8. 5% of the total estate value.

[INDIANA BONES]

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@phoenixbrd wrote:

I recently received an out of state letter from an attorney stating that the will appointed me as executrix.  I remember having a discussion years ago asking if I would want the responsibility and I replied "no".  The person that had power of attorney drained the account and put the person on medicaid due to medical debt.  Now I am notified that I was put on the will as an out of state executrix.  I'll talk to attorney this week, but just wondering if anyone has had a similar experience.

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Yes and being older I have found through others in this same position it is better to pay a lawyer to handle everything and all well go smoothly.  The last time I was one, I did nothing other than give information to an attorney.  They handled all the legal notices and paying off hospitals, bills etc.   I am one now for a loved one and I already know which lawyer I will use if I am still alive when they pass.   An attorney knows all the legalities required and I would never have known how to proceed and ensure I covered all the laws.  I think yoor decision to contact an attorney is wise and saves you much grief.

[Kachina624]

Yes, I was the executor of my parent's trust.  I can't imagine naming someone as executor without asking them first.  Many people don't have the time to take on such a chore....and it can be burdensome.  In most cases, I'd probably say, "no" to such a request, especially if there's no money to compensate you for your time and travel.