Q Talk

[faeriemoon]

You've got to love it when someone you don't even know gets on their high horse to preach.

[Marp]

I look at the mess that I intend to leave as payback.

[Love my grandkids]

@SanFerryAnne Oh good grief. Mind your own beeswax. Bet you're a lot of fun at parties!

[Zhills]

I've told my son, "When I go, just open that drawer and dump it!  Open that closet and throw it away."

"Anything that is important, we have taken care of!"

Easy Peasy!

[jubilant]

There really is two sides to this story. Yes, it is a lot of work when mom dies but every piece brought back a memory of my mother, grandmother, and great-grandmother. Great memories! Much of it went to Goodwill, which, in a way, made it worth it.  Just knowing others will get some good out of it does seem to make one feel a lot better!  

[Desertdi]

Well....let me tell ya....This really does go thru the minds of YOUR RELATIVES.     

I was informed to "clean up the house before I die"......because they don't want to INHERIT A MESS.

I felt the obligation to inform THEM....that THEY were not among my beneficiaries, since everything is going to charity.

Gosh.....I haven't heard back from them in ages......

[Kachina624]

@SanFerryAnne   I think you need to mind your own business and let other people manage their lives as they see fit.  What nerve! 

[DrakesMomma]

My Daddy died when I was 12 and my mom when I was 18.  I would give my left kidney to have a house full of their junk to have to go through.  

[Desertdi]

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@Kachina624 wrote:

@SanFerryAnne   I think you need to mind your own business and let other people manage their lives as they see fit.  What nerve! 

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@Kachina624    THANK YOU !!!     (Actually I was shocked that my relatives were even expecting anything.   They keep bad-mouthing me because I live in Arizona.....with no water, electricity, paved roads, etc.)     di

[Desert Lily]

Where are the children of these parents who keep too much stuff while their parents are living?

Maybe it's too overwhelming physically for an elderly widow or widower to clear out their home after decades of living there to please their children.

If a child lives far from the parents, then a loving/caring priority could be to plan visits to help Mom or Dad out, & take turns if sibilings are involved.

I went to my parents' home on a regular basis & helped with home maintenance issues and/or called repair services. If they had old clothes they no longer wore, I went through them with my parents & I took them to Goodwill. When I bought them new kitchen electrics, I tossed the old ones. Etc.

If a Dresden figurine or a Fenton vase made my mother happy, then it made me happy. I wanted her to have the things she cherished & enjoyed.

I wasn't mad about old report cards of mine she had; I was touched by it.

Maybe some children need to step up. If we're there for our parents while they're living, there'd be no surprise about what was left behind and nothing to complain about.

Aging happens to everyone, and what goes around comes around.