Re: Constructive Comments

lgfan · ‎10-19-2012

@RescueLover wrote:

Just one more thing… he/she could venting in order to reach out to anyone who will listen and not judge them even with the worst comments they make.

I agree with you. Dude sounded like a child who keeps pushing a parent's buttons to see how much they can get away with. Well that is my dime store analysis of the situation for the day.

lgfan · ‎10-19-2012

@RescueLover wrote:

He/she does admit to having serious health issues. an unpleasant past and not leaving their home for whatever reason.

They’ve been watching QVC for way longer than most and have an unbelievable memory.

I’m thinking all that has a lot to do with their behavior on here. 🤗

Exactly, so why are so many posters taking offense to an irrational person making ridiculous statements.

They CallMe MRWILKES · ‎06-29-2016

I didn't believe one iota of The Dude's "backstory."

In my opinion, a kid looking for kicks and giggles.

Just my sense of things.

I guess we'll never really know (the truth about that particular identity.)

Qvcmeow · ‎08-13-2020

What I don't like is the passive-aggressive remarks to posters that have a different opinion. Example: some starts a thread about a certain brand, e.g., VPH, and how much they like it. Some respond with "They're products are cheap, I can get that junk at Brick-and-mortar, the items are useless...But you guys who love it have at it."

There's such an air of superiority about remarks like that. Posters are posting about how they like a particular line, and some come into a thread comment negatively, and their not just saying that something is not their cup of tea; they disparage the vendors and their products and at the end they had "good for you" if you happen to enjoy the cheap/lame/trashy stuff. Sometimes there's a "ha, ha, sarcasm" thrown in at the end. Why show off how smart you are for not liking some of what others enjoy?

lgfan · ‎10-19-2012

@Qvcmeow wrote:
What I don't like is the passive-aggressive remarks to posters that have a different opinion. Example: some starts a thread about a certain brand, e.g., VPH, and how much they like it. Some respond with "They're products are cheap, I can get that junk at Brick-and-mortar, the items are useless...But you guys who love it have at it."

There's such an air of superiority about remarks like that. Posters are posting about how they like a particular line, and some come into a thread comment negatively, and their not just saying that something is not their cup of tea; they disparage the vendors and their products and at the end they had "good for you" if you happen to enjoy the cheap/lame/trashy stuff. Sometimes there's a "ha, ha, sarcasm" thrown in at the end. Why show off how smart you are for not liking some of what others enjoy?

I agree with you about the passive-aggressive remarks. I usually find those remarks in fashion. For example I would never spend $100 for a sweatshirt or the LOGO brand is for old hippies, etc. I remember there was one thread with the title "What is your favorite Neil Diamond song?" I couldn't believe that a poster said I don't have a favorite song and I have never liked Neil Diamond. That was hilarious. Why even bother posting a response.

RescueLover · ‎02-06-2022

I can understand why his/her posts are upsetting to and I don’t hold that against anyone for their comments.

But I can also see he/she needs help. 🤗

RescueLover · ‎02-06-2022

@Commoner Mr Wilkes

The ONLY reason I believe them is because it wasn’t the first time they posted about themselves.

I did give them credit for being so brave and open.

I don’t believe they got kicked off the forum either. I believe they said they were quitting it.

But I actually thought I saw a post from them today in the early hours and with another poster saying to them, I thought you said you were outta here!

BlueFinch · ‎08-31-2019

@lgfan wrote:
@BlueFinch wrote:
Agree that constructive criticism can birth new, positive changes. But, it's all about the delivery of negative comments. This can be done gracefully, and be well accepted. I've witnessed this here many times.

Sadly, some negativity is often just baiting to stir up the crowd, while reflecting personal preferences that may not affect the group as a whole. Often there's no concrete information to support a negative comment.

It can become annoying at times. We all have different likes, dislikes and backgrounds affecting our experiences here.

The best solutions are more tolerance, or simply ignoring irritating posts, but not throwing fuel on the fire by announcing intent. One negative is enough, without adding more in response.

Of course there is no concrete information to support a negative comment that is why it is called an opinion. Some people will not take criticism well whether it is constructive or said gracefully.

@lgfan There's a difference in someone stating IMHO, or someone stating negative information (or gossip) that they stand behind as true, without concrete details.

Everyone is entitled to their opinion, but it's best to express it as such --- just a personal opinion. This is often absent.

We can't control how people will respond to our comments, or our opinions. Yes, some will always find fault, no matter what. That's part of the game for them. We choose to play, or not. Not is best.

lgfan · ‎10-19-2012

@BlueFinch wrote:
@lgfan wrote:
@BlueFinch wrote:
Agree that constructive criticism can birth new, positive changes. But, it's all about the delivery of negative comments. This can be done gracefully, and be well accepted. I've witnessed this here many times.

Sadly, some negativity is often just baiting to stir up the crowd, while reflecting personal preferences that may not affect the group as a whole. Often there's no concrete information to support a negative comment.

It can become annoying at times. We all have different likes, dislikes and backgrounds affecting our experiences here.

The best solutions are more tolerance, or simply ignoring irritating posts, but not throwing fuel on the fire by announcing intent. One negative is enough, without adding more in response.

Of course there is no concrete information to support a negative comment that is why it is called an opinion. Some people will not take criticism well whether it is constructive or said gracefully.
@lgfan There's a difference in someone stating IMHO, or someone stating negative information (or gossip) that they stand behind as true, without concrete details.

Everyone is entitled to their opinion, but it's best to express it as such --- just a personal opinion. This is often absent.

We can't control how people will respond to our comments, or our opinions. Yes, some will always find fault, no matter what. That's part of the game for them. We choose to play, or not. Not is best.

I don't take anything that is written on a message board as a fact. If I want facts there are other sources to look at for confirmation. To me a message board is meant for opinions nothing else.

Tori3569 · ‎06-27-2010

@Qvcmeow wrote:
What I don't like is the passive-aggressive remarks to posters that have a different opinion. Example: some starts a thread about a certain brand, e.g., VPH, and how much they like it. Some respond with "They're products are cheap, I can get that junk at Brick-and-mortar, the items are useless...But you guys who love it have at it."

There's such an air of superiority about remarks like that. Posters are posting about how they like a particular line, and some come into a thread comment negatively, and their not just saying that something is not their cup of tea; they disparage the vendors and their products and at the end they had "good for you" if you happen to enjoy the cheap/lame/trashy stuff. Sometimes there's a "ha, ha, sarcasm" thrown in at the end. Why show off how smart you are for not liking some of what others enjoy?

This is exactly how I feel as well.

There are 3 specific posters who start posts when they don't like something being presented, write a few snarky comments and end with " those are just IMO, enjoy it to those who purchased " or something like that.

Then the 4 posters who seem to hate anything and everything at QVC and/or proudly proclaim they haven't shopped here in years will comment in agreement.

I've written this before, but that's not how one affects change. There are many ways to say I don't like this, how do others feel?--without using the words "ugly, horrible, trash, etc.".