Mom to Mom

[RoughDraft]

Apparently, your "child" isn't done growing.

[GoneButNotForgotten]

I would be hurt, but would not let it ruin my birthday. I am sure there must be a very good reason why your child didn't acknowledge your birthday.

That's not necesarily true. Our grown son ignored his father's 75 th birthday out of just plain laziness. I was as mad as a wet hen but I wouldn't waste my energy chewing his a*s because he doesn't care.

[SleeplessinSD]

I hope if you didn't end up hearing from your son, that you called him. Like someone, mentioned, it could have been done in a light hearted way and not confrontational. You know him best.  Hopefully, he had a good reason, but at least you'll know, and it won't keep eating at you. Like you, I'd be hurt too. Is this unlike him? Is this the first time he's ever forgotten? I'm so glad others remembered and made your day special. I also know it's not the same...

[katie1859]

This is the case for me as well. No mentions of my birthday but then after mine passed this year I had a thought.
What is the big deal about birthdays esp when you are passed adolescence? Think about it.
With ALL the people on earth, birthdays are arrivals. Perhaps if we embraced relationships in general about hinge it on a DAY.
I recently had issue with someone I thought was a friend. On Thanksgiving she texted and insisted that because she’s so busy she needs a secretary. How she just dropped off September birthday cards in November, and she felt to include me on her forgotten list.
I said let it go. She went on and on and I finally said, embrace your relationship everyday and not focus on eternally late cards with the message of “busy”. The emphasis that a card is a blanket over.
Yes, some find remembrance is acknowledging and in that value or validation. I’m sorry there’s hurt in that but really it’s a lesson that we grow away from the cake and card and we then focus on life as a whole.
I feel free in not carrying hurt from no cards or these days texts. I do though send cards because I know others haven’t had the thought process I had.

[katie1859]

What do you do?

I have 5 grown and one will acknowledge.

I've been told by a few people that I don't stand alone, that it's an epidemic today

of stand aways. They aren't  close to parents/family and they blocknout.

It hurts, sure but Inhavevto let it go. 
They're adults. They're adulting they way they want.

[foxywoods]

Guess I would wonder what was up with my son.   But I don't like to be nagged about stuff like that. they have 3 kids under 5 bouncing off the walls.  So personally I just let it go.    my ex is the guilt tripper and my son has to deal with that negativity.

[qualitygal]

No big deal to me, I feel loved.

[qualitygal]

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@KittySoftPaws wrote:

@panda1234   In life, people will dissapoint you, and unfortunatley many times those people can be your own family.  Sorry this happened to you, it hurts I know. 

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@KittySoftPaws so true so many disappointments in life. When it's family, it just hurts a little bit more. I don't know if I should call him if I don't hear from him soon. 

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Just call him and visit with him and see what he's been doing.  Reach out and touch.

[qualitygal]

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@hopi wrote:

Nothing.... would be disappointed but life is about letting go sometimes.

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@hopi @I have a rare and serious illness, and I don't know if I have another birthday. I guess that is playing into this and I will just have to let it go.

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Dear @panda1234   Well, that's something else.  It might this year, be too painful for him get through.  Benefit of the doubt.  I'm sure he loves you.  Give it a couple of days, we just sometimes get so busy, we do forget some things, no matter how much it means to us. 

[Kelsmom]

I would hang that guilt over his head for the rest of my life ( the "hours long painful labor birthing you" thing is getting old) LOL Seriously, forgetting me on Mothers Day is what would truely hurt