Mom to Mom

[Carmie]

Occasionally, one or more of my three adult children forget to acknowledge my birthday.

I am an adult and not a child.  Birthdays are no big deal to me.  It's just one day.

I appreciate that they stop in to visit or call just any old day of the week.  

My children all work crazy shifts and they work unconventional hours. They have enough to do and sometimes time gets away from them.

It's not proof of love to acknowledge a birthday, Mother's Day or some other Hallmark day.

[gtx]

@panda1234  It doesn't mean that he doesn't love you. He just forgot. I wouldn't want to make him feel bad. He will remember eventually and I am sure he will regret that he didn't remember.

[Venezia]

@panda1234 - You don't say whether this is a one-off occurrence or whether he never remembers your birthday.  That makes a big difference, IMO.

[Bonkers1]

I personally would feel hurt and then annoyed.  I also would call him and asked if he wanted to wish you a Happy Birthday - he might be apologetic.

[Janey2]

So sorry this happened. I would be upset. Maybe he sent a card and it just did not come today. He should have called even if he sent a card.I if you do not hear from him by tomorrow I would probably forget his birthday. 

[Janey2]

I have to add...how does he act all the other days of the year? If he is a good son maybe he really just forgot. Life sometimes gets really busy for some people.

[hopi]

Nothing.... would be disappointed but life is about letting go sometimes.

[panda1234]

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@gtx wrote:

@panda1234  It doesn't mean that he doesn't love you. He just forgot. I wouldn't want to make him feel bad. He will remember eventually and I am sure he will regret that he didn't remember.

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@gtx @Feelings are hurt right now. I know he loves me and I also know he would never do this to his wife or his mother-in-law.

[panda1234]

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@hopi wrote:

Nothing.... would be disappointed but life is about letting go sometimes.

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@hopi @I have a rare and serious illness, and I don't know if I have another birthday. I guess that is playing into this and I will just have to let it go.

[Puggywuggy]

I have a son and he frequently forgets, but he's a good son and I know he loves me. I have a daughter who goes out of her way to do special things for her father and does very little for my birthday and it's generally several weeks late. One year my Christmas gift was two years after Christmas was over, lol.

@panda1234
I hope that this is simply an oversight on your son's part and I am sorry that you were forgotten on your Special Day! I know how it feels to be intentionally slighted by one of your children and I sincerely hope that this is not the case for you. ❤️