Kitchen

[debic]

My mother. She was so selfish she didn’t want anyone’s food to be as good as hers. Years of stealth (8 of us) and we got most of them and share with everyone. I do have some Mexican recipes that were given to me and asked me not to share his family recipes. I’m ok with that.

[Caligurll]

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@Lilysmom wrote:

@CrazyKittyLvr2, my story is not really the same but related.  I have a family member who takes my best recipes and claims them as his own.  Never gives credit and does it right in front of me.  My pie crust, my chow, my scalloped potatoes, and the list goes on.  One thing he can’t seem to make is my chip dip.  I gave him the recipe but he says it never tastes the same.  I didn’t leave anything out but he has accused me of that lol.

What do you do with someone like that?  Not to worry.  Not high on my worry list.  LM

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@Lilysmom  Your post reminds my of a D*ck Van D*ke episode about eavesdropping where Laura give Millie her recipe for avocado dip but "forgets" to list one ingredient, mustard.  It's one of my favorite DVanD episodes.

Not saying or implying you would do that, just brought up my memory of that episode and gave me a smile!

[haddon9]

I have an online shop over on Etsy.  They have an active forum there too.  Over the years there have been a LOT of posts from sellers complaining about strangers asking for their techniques on how to make what they do...similar to asking for a recipe. 

I can see being annoyed by a stranger asking how you make what you do for a living but asking a relative for a recipe just to make for your own enjoyment seems very strange by being turned down.  I don't get it!

[haddon9]

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@SouthernBee wrote:

My Dad’s mother made the best macaroni and cheese. She never shared the recipe. When she had us over for Thanksgiving and Christmas no one was allowed in the kitchen. She would make everyone’s plate and bring it out on trays to serve everyone and did the same for refills. My brother resented me because I could never duplicate the recipe. My Mother’s mother was the opposite, she enjoyed sharing recipes and teaching grandchildren how to cook and prepare her recipes. I have several of Mom’s recipes. After Mom died my brother would get irate because my chicken and dressing never tasted exactly like Mom’s and he would state- you have her recipe but you mess it up- I followed the recipe with no substitutes. Yet he claimed that when I made her yellow cake with fudge frosting- perfect😲! Southern Bee 

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@SouthernBee . Your brother is annoyed that you don't make it just right?!!...what's stopping him from making it?  I would say go make you own dam dinner!

[Lilysmom]

@Caligurll, I can see why it would remind you of that.  I think the reason my dip is different than his is that I use a heavy hand with some of the ingredients to give it more kick.  I told him that but he still thinks mine is better.

When he entertains, he always asks me to make that dip which I do.  LM

[violann]

My mother, GRHS, NEVER let me stay in the kitchen while she cooked.

She was a PAINFULLY anxious woman, and when she cooked for family, she’d get panicked if she thought she’d make a mistake.

SOOO-, the pie crust that was SO delicious it was good enough to eat PLAIN, without filling, will be just a memory.

I miss her for so many reasons, and her cooking is just one.

[SouthernBee]

@dex@haddon9: I made copies of all the recipes and put them in protective covers and purchased a 3 ring binder and designed a special cover for a special gift for my brother, but as far as I could tell, he never tried to cook them. My brother died 3/24/14 of lung cancer. I was at his bedside the night before he died and that was very difficult watching and hearing him struggle to breath. He was my only sibling. My precious DH enjoys and appreciates that my mother and grandmother provided recipes for him to enjoy and he cherishes the extra care and love provided with each recipe and meal that is prepared. I am very thankful and blessed. Southern Bee 

[spud188]

When ever I get a recipe from anyone  I change the name. For example if Chickenbutt gave me a recipe for brownies, I put Chickenbutt's Famous Brownies on the recipe card. That way I remember who gave me the recipe.

[dex]

@SouthernBee Oh that is really sad news.Your brother was so lucky to have a loving sister like you to be with him to the end.Now I I am thinking that maybe he didn’t enjoy the food so much because he wasn’t well.... changes everything.

I bet you are the best cook because you put your heart into it and try to make your family  feel loved and cherished.

[dex]

@SharkE

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@SharkE wrote:

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@chickenbutt wrote:

I really don't see why anybody should be expected to share their recipes.  Granted, I really don't have a family but even if I did I would imagine it would be my choice as to whether or not to share.    

The name-calling in one post is out of line.

I've written a LOT of recipes over the years.    I used to post some of the ones I wanted to share here, many years ago, but stopped when somebody told me my recipe was good but they didn't want to go to the trouble of some of the ingredients or time so they just dumped some canned soup in there and made it totally different.   Ooh, yummy - NOT!   That was offensive, so I have not shared a recipe here since then.

I once considered writing a book of mine but it really doesn't matter.  I don't have kids and - I mean really, who cares.    They'll probably all be thrown away when I die.   Doesn't much matter.

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@chickenbutt   what I do is tell them it's the recipe on the back of the flour pkg or something like that. LOL

I"m not giving away what I've paid for in a magazine or searched for, so, somebody else can get the glory for my work.

I get appreciated for so little anyway and have always been looked down on if I want to be queen of such and such and get some recognition for once I'm not giving it away for somebody else to get crowed over. They can bust their own butt.

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  I guess I have a better understanding after reading your posts why people don’t want to share recipes.I am sure people love it when you cook for them and sometimes people ask for a recipe just to show appreciation.I bet most times they love it more when you do it for them.Everyone enjoys a little pamoering.I wish I lived close by so I could get invited to try some of your specialties.