DH: Helpful or Useless? - Page 11

Dominosmom · ‎07-17-2010

Helpful when we have guests, especially when it is his family.

NYC Susan · ‎03-13-2010

On 11/28/2014 paShar said:
To the OP: I don't understand why you are so upset that he asked a few questions. He asked because he wanted to know! Your post seems to indicate that you think he asked just to annoy you. I don't think he was questioning your methods, he just was curious.

Instead of being annoyed, you should be grateful that he did all the things you mentioned in the first paragraph of your post.

Sorry if this sounds harsh, it's my opinion.

That was my take on it too. I would far prefer someone who was interested & curious to someone who was indifferent and off in his own world. It certainly sounds as though his heart was in the right place & that his intentions were good. And I would say he was very helpful!

I know this post was probably intended to be lighthearted, but I can't imagine using the word "useless" to describe someone I love, or even to consider it as an option. Yes, some people are more helpful than others. I think "helpful vs. non-helpful" would have sounded less offensive.

JMO, obviously!

Kiss

persiflage · ‎02-16-2014

I'm going to have to read all the replies later. The ones I read reminded me of all the years with my husband....

When we were first married I did some traveling with my job. I came home from an out of town trip and was greeted with the first home cooked meal from my groom. Pork roast, he had asked a local restaurant owner how to prepare it. He needed a rack to go in the roasting pan so he cut up my heavy duty (expensive) cooling rack to fit down inside the pan. I am not sure how long he was told to cook it but it could have been an old shoe or anything by the time he served it. Later I found he had also done the laundry for me. My beautiful French lace bra now had one side of the back completely missing as if the machine had eaten it, he hadn't noticed.

We have been married 30+ years and work well together in the kitchen, I am the chef and he my trainee. I am very thankful to share my life with him.

chickenbutt · ‎03-09-2010

I think that some people might not understand the 'constant questions' thing because maybe they don't live with somebody who is always (!) asking questions. It can become annoying. My husband is more of a talker than I and he asks sooooooo many questions sometimes that I really have to keep myself from exploding much of the time.

The thing is, with him anyway, most of the questions are repetitive. I do get tired of answering the ridiculous line of questions and I have been known to ask 'what do you plan to do with that information?'. It's always 'oh, I just wondered'. I guess I don't get it because I don't ask questions unless it's for a specific reason for which I need that information. I have to remember that that is just part of his 'need to talk'.

Daysdee · ‎03-09-2010

On 11/29/2014 dominosmom said:
Helpful when we have guests, especially when it is his family.

Same here.

HonnyBrown · ‎11-23-2013

On 11/29/2014 NYC Susan said:
On 11/28/2014 paShar said:
To the OP: I don't understand why you are so upset that he asked a few questions. He asked because he wanted to know! Your post seems to indicate that you think he asked just to annoy you. I don't think he was questioning your methods, he just was curious.

Instead of being annoyed, you should be grateful that he did all the things you mentioned in the first paragraph of your post.

Sorry if this sounds harsh, it's my opinion.

That was my take on it too. I would far prefer someone who was interested & curious to someone who was indifferent and off in his own world. It certainly sounds as though his heart was in the right place & that his intentions were good. And I would say he was very helpful!

I know this post was probably intended to be lighthearted, but I can't imagine using the word "useless" to describe someone I love, or even to consider it as an option. Yes, some people are more helpful than others. I think "helpful vs. non-helpful" would have sounded less offensive.

JMO, obviously!

WOW!

How do you all read that I was upset with my husband?!

You should use your "powers" for good! Lighten up and have fun, geez.

Get your flu shot...because I didn't.

HonnyBrown · ‎11-23-2013

On 11/29/2014 persiflage said:
I'm going to have to read all the replies later. The ones I read reminded me of all the years with my husband....

When we were first married I did some traveling with my job. I came home from an out of town trip and was greeted with the first home cooked meal from my groom. Pork roast, he had asked a local restaurant owner how to prepare it. He needed a rack to go in the roasting pan so he cut up my heavy duty (expensive) cooling rack to fit down inside the pan. I am not sure how long he was told to cook it but it could have been an old shoe or anything by the time he served it. Later I found he had also done the laundry for me. My beautiful French lace bra now had one side of the back completely missing as if the machine had eaten it, he hadn't noticed.

We have been married 30+ years and work well together in the kitchen, I am the chef and he my trainee. I am very thankful to share my life with him.

Oh, that is impressive! Congrats on being married for 30+ years; that is a true accomplishment!

Get your flu shot...because I didn't.

HonnyBrown · ‎11-23-2013

On 11/29/2014 Daysdee said:
On 11/29/2014 dominosmom said:
Helpful when we have guests, especially when it is his family.

Same here.

Mine is Husband of the Year around my family.

Get your flu shot...because I didn't.

HonnyBrown · ‎11-23-2013

On 11/29/2014 chickenbutt said:
I think that some people might not understand the 'constant questions' thing because maybe they don't live with somebody who is always (!) asking questions. It can become annoying. My husband is more of a talker than I and he asks sooooooo many questions sometimes that I really have to keep myself from exploding much of the time.

The thing is, with him anyway, most of the questions are repetitive. I do get tired of answering the ridiculous line of questions and I have been known to ask 'what do you plan to do with that information?'. It's always 'oh, I just wondered'. I guess I don't get it because I don't ask questions unless it's for a specific reason for which I need that information. I have to remember that that is just part of his 'need to talk'.

I made macaroni and cheese, which is a staple when my stepsons come over. I have made it the same way since we were married.

He asked me a million questions about the type of pasta, how the sauce is made, how long to bake it...things he could have asked every other week for the past 5 years.

He chose to ask now, when I was trying to juggle Thanksgiving dinner.

I had to step back and see that he was truly curious, just at the wrong time. I answered his questions, showed him a few tricks and exercised patience.

He ended up bragging to my sons' friends about the dish when they came by for leftovers.

Get your flu shot...because I didn't.