DH: Helpful or Useless? - Page 10

AuntG · ‎03-09-2010

On 11/28/2014 Mary Bailey said:
10 years ago I nearly lost him to a stroke and this year he lost half his blood volume after a routine colonoscopy. I'm happy he's still here.

Scary when it is something they consider as routine as a colonoscopy. I'm glad he survived too.

151949 · ‎03-09-2010

On 11/28/2014 HonnyBrown said:
On 11/28/2014 mandymut said:
I hardly ever come on these boards but just happened to come across this topic tonight .....

any who responded negatively should be very grateful and fortunate to have your husband by your side ...... I don't ..... after a very happy marriage of 40 years, he fell in front of me from a sudden and fatal heart attack ......

I'm sorry for your loss, mandy.

Of course we are grateful for, and fortunate to have our husbands! We are happy just as you were. That doesn't mean they can't annoy us!

exactly

chickenbutt · ‎03-09-2010

On 11/29/2014 debc said:
Oh for Pete's sakes, people need to loosen up. While it's very sad to lose the men in your lives it's no reason that anyone needs to chastise others for what they say that isn't a glowing report. I've lost a child, if people complain about their kids I bow out of the conversation as I know something will be said that bothers me. It's just unfair.

Men make fun of their wives all the time in a group, doesn't mean they don't appreciate or love them.

Since my husband can't boil water, he is useless in the kitchen. He's a great guy, we've been together for 40 years so I guess he must be good for something. (a joke, don't get your panties in a bunch). I love to cook and I'm thankful he stays out of my way. He usually sits at the other side of the counter and talks to me which I enjoy.

LOL, he's a very enthusiastic eater. We still like each other, we talk all the time, even when we go on long vacations, we talk and there's no radio turned on. He works, I don't. If he's home he shovels the sidewalks and driveway. He thanks me for everything even if it is just a cup of coffee.

Exactly! But it's par for the course on this board. Any time you see a thread about 'my husband (or whomever) is driving me crazy (or whatever)' there will, invariably, be responses like - Well, my husband is DEAD! You need to be grateful, etc...blah blah blah.

People vent all the time and it's pretty easy to see that it's not meant that the OP, or anybody else generally, is saying that their husband is full-on useless.

I sincerely care about such profound losses, and wish for peace and healing for those who survive their loved ones. I really mean that, or I wouldn't say it. We've all had losses, or at least probably most of us, so we understand. But I don't understand when some will use that as a weapon to be self-righteous toward others for every little thing they say.

suzyQ3 · ‎03-09-2010

I haven't read the replies here, so forgive me if I'm repeating something. My husband and I have never really had the gender divisions that I read about but that maybe are losing ground these days.

Different stages of our lives called for different sharing of responsibilities. Example: When I was home with our daughter, I was the cook. These days, my husband does the cooking.

So to answer the OP, no, my husband is not useless. And I tend to think that people are useless only if they choose to be or are allowed to be.

~Who in the world am I? Ah, that's the great puzzle~ Lewis Carroll, Alice in Wonderland

151949 · ‎03-09-2010

On 11/29/2014 suzyQ3 said:
I haven't read the replies here, so forgive me if I'm repeating something. My husband and I have never really had the gender divisions that I read about but that maybe are losing ground these days.

Different stages of our lives called for different sharing of responsibilities. Example: When I was home with our daughter, I was the cook. These days, my husband does the cooking.

So to answer the OP, no, my husband is not useless. And I tend to think that people are useless only if they choose to be or are allowed to be.

Just because my husband does not wash the dishes does not mean I think he is useless. He does many other things ... occasionally he even cooks. However, he claims he can't use the dishwasher and the few times he has had to because I had surgery etc and he had no other choice - he does things like puts the sharpest knives in the kitchen into the silverware sections hidden among the other silverware with the sharp end up then cuts himself unloading the dishes after they are clean. So I have to climb out of my ice machine and drive him to the ER for stitches, then I have to get down on the kitchen floor to clean up where he bled all over everything when we get home. With some husbands -- life is an adventure.

missy1 · ‎03-10-2010

USELESS

debic · ‎09-02-2010

LOL, I sincerely hope people don't take everything so literally in real life. What could have been a fun little thread has been blown out of proportion.

I'm amazed at how many people must never make fun of their spouses.

~~
*Off The Deep End~A very short trip for some!*

HonnyBrown · ‎11-23-2013

On 11/29/2014 debc said:
LOL, I sincerely hope people don't take everything so literally in real life. What could have been a fun little thread has been blown out of proportion.

I'm amazed at how many people must never make fun of their spouses.

debc, exactly! I created this thread to be fun! I'm glad that most posters acknowledge that; and for those who try to pull others into their well of misery, I wish you well (or at least better than what you have).

Get your flu shot...because I didn't.

EnglishRose88 · ‎03-11-2010

My husband does nothing to help at holiday time or any other time. I cook, make him a plate, bring the plate and is beverage to him (we eat in front of the TV.) I take the plate from him after he is finished, wash the dishes, carry the trash out. It's been going on for 32 years now so I'm sure it will never change.