Re: A little O/T: Is there a benefit in doing you... - Page 3

paShar · ‎03-10-2010

On 2/14/2015 Heart of Spade said:
I guess it all depends on your lifestyle. As a SAHM, I feel those things are my "job." I take pride in my home and making nice meals for my family. I've always cleaned my own home (I would be one of those people who cleaned for the cleaning lady!), and I can't imagine subjecting anyone to our dirty laundry. ${#emotions_dlg.blush}$

I have an acquaintance who is a SAHM and hires people to do literally everything (housekeeping, laundry, yard work, dry cleaning pick-up and delivery, in-home dog washing, you name it). I don't know what she does all day! I know it's none of my business, but I'm really curious. I have seen her be very active in many ways, so I don't think it's disability driven. I guess she spends the day scheduling all her help!

Heart, I had to laugh when I read this. I had a friend years ago who did just that. The day before her cleaning lady was due to come, she would run around the house picking up and dusting - because she didn't want the cleaning lady to think her house was dirty!!

Ms X · ‎09-13-2012

On 2/14/2015 brii said:
What I don't do well, I pay someone to do for me. I clean my own house and I shop and cook. I get my nails done every two weeks. Some might consider that a luxury or wasteful - but I do not feel that way at all.

I don't feel guilty about it and I certainly don't care what other people do or don't do with their money.

I'm sure those at your salon appreciate the business, especially if you are a good tipper. That's what those who object to people using service providers don't understand.
Many people make decent and even good livings providing domestic or cosmetic services to the well-heeled!

Snowpuppy · ‎03-09-2010

On 2/14/2015 paShar said:
On 2/14/2015 Heart of Spade said:
I guess it all depends on your lifestyle. As a SAHM, I feel those things are my "job." I take pride in my home and making nice meals for my family. I've always cleaned my own home (I would be one of those people who cleaned for the cleaning lady!), and I can't imagine subjecting anyone to our dirty laundry. ${#emotions_dlg.blush}$

I have an acquaintance who is a SAHM and hires people to do literally everything (housekeeping, laundry, yard work, dry cleaning pick-up and delivery<em>,</em> in-home dog washing, you name it). I don't know what she does all day! I know it's none of my business, but I'm really curious. I have seen her be very active in many ways, so I don't think it's disability driven. I guess she spends the day scheduling all her help!

Heart, I had to laugh when I read this. I had a friend years ago who did just that. The day before her cleaning lady was due to come, she would run around the house picking up and dusting - because she didn't want the cleaning lady to think her house was dirty!!

${#emotions_dlg.laugh}$

A friend had to have major surgery a few years ago. She is so very fussy about housekeeping that she nearly had a breakdown trying to figure out how to handle dust bunnies while recovering. I suggested she hire a service.

She hired Merry Maids and wasn't happy. Instead of spending time recovering she spent it cleaning behind the cleaning people. She called me to tell me how many buckets of rinse water she used on her floors after they were done. ${#emotions_dlg.blink}$

Marienkaefer2 · ‎03-09-2010

Hiring help can be a great thing. I don't see anything wring with it. Whatever works for you and your family.

If you have a garden and a library, you have everything you need.--Marcus Tullius Cicero

151949 · ‎03-09-2010

On 2/14/2015 paShar said:
On 2/14/2015 Heart of Spade said:
I guess it all depends on your lifestyle. As a SAHM, I feel those things are my "job." I take pride in my home and making nice meals for my family. I've always cleaned my own home (I would be one of those people who cleaned for the cleaning lady!), and I can't imagine subjecting anyone to our dirty laundry. ${#emotions_dlg.blush}$

I have an acquaintance who is a SAHM and hires people to do literally everything (housekeeping, laundry, yard work, dry cleaning pick-up and delivery<em>,</em> in-home dog washing, you name it). I don't know what she does all day! I know it's none of my business, but I'm really curious. I have seen her be very active in many ways, so I don't think it's disability driven. I guess she spends the day scheduling all her help!

Heart, I had to laugh when I read this. I had a friend years ago who did just that. The day before her cleaning lady was due to come, she would run around the house picking up and dusting - because she didn't want the cleaning lady to think her house was dirty!!

My DH constantly makes fun of me cleaning for the housekeeper. To me it is only common sense that the cleaning lady is not going to know where to put away your clutter and you need to do that before she gets there so it is out of the way and she can clean. DUH. I do also clean the toilets before she comes because IMO - i do not pay her enough to have to clean dirty (like visible stuff in there ) toilets. She does disinfect them but, just as I do every day - I clean up the toilets before she arrives.

151949 · ‎03-09-2010

On 2/14/2015 Ms X said:
On 2/14/2015 brii said:
What I don't do well, I pay someone to do for me. I clean my own house and I shop and cook. I get my nails done every two weeks. Some might consider that a luxury or wasteful - but I do not feel that way at all.

I don't feel guilty about it and I certainly don't care what other people do or don't do with their money.

I'm sure those at your salon appreciate the business, especially if you are a good tipper. That's what those who object to people using service providers don't understand.
Many people make decent and even good livings providing domestic or cosmetic services to the well-heeled!

Exactly. On Downton Abbey the SIL was talking to the earl and mentioned cutting back on the staff and the Earl answered " Then how would those unfortunates make a living?" He hit the nail right on the head. When you hire someone to do a job for you then you are providing them with employment.

Snicks1 · ‎07-28-2012

I see nothing wrong with having help with things if you are too busy, work long hours, are unable or even just don't want to do it, if you can afford then then I say go for it. No problem. I am still doing all my own and my husbands part also as he is no longer able to do much since his illness. If he can manage to do a full week at work, then that is about it. I do have RA and bulging disc in my back and osteoarthritis in my knees and it does take a long time for me to do things I previously could do in a short amount of time, if it gets to the point I can not continue, we will have to get help. I don't want to, but may not have a choice somewhere in the future.

"To each their own, in all things".

Sooner · ‎03-10-2010

I think that whether people do or don't do chores doesn't make them a saint or a sinner. I also don't think about that--other than thinking about it would be absolutely none of my business. What possible difference to me would it make whether someone does their laundry or sends it out, or mows the yard or goes to Disneyland?

chickenbutt · ‎03-09-2010

On 2/16/2015 Sooner said:
I think that whether people do or don't do chores doesn't make them a saint or a sinner. I also don't think about that--other than thinking about it would be absolutely none of my business. What possible difference to me would it make whether someone does their laundry or sends it out, or mows the yard or goes to Disneyland?

Yeah, all of this. I just don't get the notion that something is wrong with you, or bad about you, if you pay people to clean, mow the lawn, whatever. I don't understand this line of thinking that tells those of us who get help from others with stuff we could do ourselves that we are bad/wrong.

I don't even want to try and make the call for what others should do, not do, pay somebody else to do, etc, because it is absolutely none of my affair, nor is it for me to judge.

What is right for me doesn't have to be what is right for somebody else. It just seems to be harshly judgmental to say what others should do with their money/time.

house_cat · ‎03-09-2010

On 2/16/2015 chickenbutt said:
On 2/16/2015 Sooner said:
I think that whether people do or don't do chores doesn't make them a saint or a sinner. I also don't think about that--other than thinking about it would be absolutely none of my business. What possible difference to me would it make whether someone does their laundry or sends it out, or mows the yard or goes to Disneyland?

Yeah, all of this. I just don't get the notion that something is wrong with you, or bad about you, if you pay people to clean, mow the lawn, whatever. I don't understand this line of thinking that tells those of us who get help from others with stuff we could do ourselves that we are bad/wrong.

I don't even want to try and make the call for what others should do, not do, pay somebody else to do, etc, because it is absolutely none of my affair, nor is it for me to judge.

What is right for me doesn't have to be what is right for somebody else. It just seems to be harshly judgmental to say what others should do with their money/time.

Maybe I missed something. Did anyone say there was something wrong with those who hire help?

~ house cat ~