Wedding rings

catnipper · ‎11-28-2010

I have been a widow since last August. I still wear my wedding rings. My hand feels naked without something on it. I was thinking....about taking them off & replacing with my birthstone ring, amethyst. Something big & bold. Any other ideas or suggestions? TIA

1jenniferjuniper · ‎03-09-2010

I would continue to wear my wedding rings if it made me happy. I think your idea is great if you are ready for a change.

Kitlynn · ‎03-09-2010

You can always take them in an have them redesigned into a different ring then you can have the memory of what they stand for and a new ring that you will be comfortable wearing.

shaggygirl · ‎11-24-2011

I've been a widow not quite 3 years now and I still wear my wedding band. I just don't ever think about replacing it with something else. Somehow I just wouldn't feel right about. But if you're comfortable with replacing yours with something else go for it. Maybe if I was younger and wished to meet someone and marry again some day I would consider it, I don't really know. I'm curious to know what other widows are going to say.

corita · ‎08-20-2012

This thread made me remember what happened to my father and mother's wedding rings . After my mother passed, my father lived alone for several years. He then reconnected with a lady that he and my mother had known years ago. By that time, she had also become a widow. They, 60 plus years old, "dated" for a year then decided to marry. They took my father's and mother's wedding rings and her and husband's wedding rings and melted the four wedding rings down to two - their wedding rings. I always thought that sweet gesture was such a tribute to their spouses and I am tearing up as I reread this.....

Bird mama · ‎03-12-2010

My husband passed in January 2007 and I'm still wearing my rings AND his (lol).

I think that if you feel ready to replace the wedding rings, go for it :-)

There are times when you must speak, not because you are going to change the opposing side, but because if you do not speak, they have changed you.

ThatsLife · ‎10-15-2010

That's beautiful Corita.

Jhincher · ‎02-04-2014

I lost my sweet husband in May of 2012. I am not 68 and still wear my rings, I just don't see myself without them. I left my husband's wedding band on his hand and by wearing mine, somehow It feels like we are still connected. I won't every marry again, he was the true love of my life.

queendiva · ‎03-12-2010

I think a lot depends on your age when becoming a widow, with older women less likely to remove their rings. Whatever is right for you is right. No one else can ever dictate that. Entirely personal.