@Regal Bee wrote:
@Mominohio Okay, we just have to agree to disagree as I stand totally by my post.
Clearing clutter, if one sees it as a problem, requires doing something about it....talking will not solve the problem anymore than it does with anything else.
I am a doer and not a talker....guess this is why I am having an issue with this.
Hope it gets solved for the people suffering with this problem.
Lots of people are doers, but still have certain areas of their lives that they seem to loose control of.
We all know that person that is a real success in almost every facet of their lives, but has that one thing that they simply can't control, or that is the monkey on their back so to speak. They have this one area of 'weakness' that they just never seem to get a real handle on, or they occasionally make some strides with, then fall back into the same patterns.
For some people (not at all everyone here that joins the decluttering discussions, or even most of them), endless consumerism, attachment to things (usually due to some emotional or psychological issues), even just the physical inability to keep control over the quantity of things or the maintenance of their space, or having to deal with those things because of others in their lives who over consume and lack control, is a real issue that is no more easily dealt with by saying 'do it' than telling the alcoholic to stop drinking. The reality of it is that some people have real issues that cause them to live a cluttered or hoarder lifestyle. Some people need help in some form or another, to 'get it done' .
There really isn't any disagreement on my part, but you have expressed a couple of times on these type threads that you 'don't get it'. All I'm pointing out is that some people are just lazy and don't get it done, some people actually like their 'clutter' and stuff, but feel society is telling them it is excessive, but for many there are psychological reasons they acquire and keep too much, for some there are physical reasons they don't get the job done, and others are left holding the bag from deceased relatives, or live with those that aren't on the same page about what is the right amount of stuff.
I think most of the people here who participate in the decluttering conversations are looking for ideas on new ways to stay organized and in control of stuff, find a sense of camaraderie with others on the same quest to have the homes they love with the freedom from too many things, looking for inspiration to get going, or keep up what they have done, or seek validation that letting go of many things that are supposed to matter (grandma's tea set, and mom's treasured china) is ok (as is keeping what you love and want to use).
I don't find the discussions on these forums about decluttering any different than the discussions about holiday decor. It is just people relating what they are doing, what they want to achieve, how they are going about it, why they want to streamline their lives and their spaces, and the journey they have been on to get where they want to be.
I see very few posts by people who are wanting to achieve a different level of 'stuff' in their lives, that aren't actually doing something about it, and just sharing the processes and results (as well as the work involved) with other like minded people, or seeking advice on how and where to begin.
The talking about it here is solving the problem for many people. It is getting them started, keeping them motivated, helping them learn new ideas, concepts, and skills, and even just opening up possibilities to them of a way of life they might not even had considered. Several times I have read people post on these topics, that they never even thought about doing it, until they read the posts here and realized they wanted something different.
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