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[SilleeMee]

One year my dad bought my mom a set of real silver dinnerware...the water pitcher, goblets, tray, flatware...the whole nine yards. I guess it was a way to show her they way to celebrate traditional family dinners during the holidays. Besides my dad, we were all sort of stunned. Like what the heck is this all about. So there for a while the kids had the chore of dragging out the silver from the china cabinet and polishing it all up to get ready for a turkey dinner or whatever. So if you ask me why people don't buy silver....this is why I wouldn't.

[Mominohio]

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@blackhole99 wrote:

My millennial son was raised with antiques, fine china, crystal and sterling silver flatware. My son knew from a very young age which fork and spoon to use, we had sit down dinners almost every night. That being said, he did not appreciate any of it, he said he would have preferred to sit in his room in front of the TV at dinner time. I guess we all don't find value in the same things.

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He may not appreciate it now, but give him time. It will mean something someday. 

I think we were all young and fickle at one time too! There are just some of us that take longer to appreciate what we were rasied with. 

@blackhole99

[Spurt]

@Mominohio

I so agree with you so many traditions seem to be going by the wayside.  And this will certainly add to it---my sister was in the market for a new apartment and all these fancy ones are springing up all over town....so my sister and I along with a friend went to check some of them out....none of them offer a place for a dinning room or kitchen table....and when my sister asked the Apartment Manager about it ---the answer was there is a generous granite bar to eat your meals, and this is the way millenials prefer to eat their meals.  My sister made a good point in that these newer apartments look more like a hotel than a home!!!!---And I agreed with that assessment.......My sister loves to have formal dinners and a nicely "dressed" table with her pretty dishes and silverware.....napkin rings and pretty centerpiece/candles.....so now everyone squeezes in at the granite bar.?????....  And she also commented and where are we supposed to play cards/games too...........we were not impressed with the new layouts......

[Mominohio]

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@Spurt wrote:

@Mominohio

I so agree with you so many traditions seem to be going by the wayside.  And this will certainly add to it---my sister was in the market for a new apartment and all these fancy ones are springing up all over town....so my sister and I along with a friend went to check some of them out....none of them offer a place for a dinning room or kitchen table....and when my sister asked the Manager Apartment the answer was there is a generous granite bar to eat your meals, and this is the way millenials prefer to eat their meals.  My sister made a good point in that these newer apartments look more like a hotel than a home!!!!---And I agreed with that assessment.......My sister loves to have formal dinners and a nicely "dressed" table with her pretty dishes and silverware.....napkin rings and pretty centerpiece/candles.....so everyone squeezes in at the granite bar.....  And she also commented and where are we supposed to play cards/games too...........we were not impressed with the new layouts......

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Well builders, designers, and landlords had better realize that not everyone is a millennial, and even millennials will not be at the same place in their lives, with their needs and wants changing over time, and there had better be housing designed to suit those changes!

Things change, times change, and trends come and go, but some people in all generations will continue to appreciate doing things in traditional ways, and won't be forced into changing just because others say 'it is the way today'. Count me at the head of that group!

@Spurt

[ANewHue]

I think of this all the time.   I regret that my child did not get the opportunity to experience my MIL doing a holiday dinner.  She was a great cook and even better baker and that was her opportunity to showcase her handiwork.   The table was always perfect.

[homedecor1]

@Kachina624

I don't know how to copy but your statement about your nieces made me chuckle.  My niece is the same - I called her (shall I say my son text her with a message he would be doing TG but if she preferred to do it at their new home he would understand)

So I casually ask her if she got the text  -- her answer: I'm not doing any TG that's a full- day of cooking & a sit down style dinner!  I (we) have no desire to start doing that - we like casual, easy entertaining, i.e., paper plates!!!  She was too funny: I said I will help you -- she said "thanks but no thanks I don't want to be stuck the next 20 years I'll keep Easter brunch, Christmas Eve & calling the caterer!!!! (Guess the Holly Lenox will remain in the boxes!! Lol)

I just chuckled because she said I loved the many wonderful holidays and sit down dinners at your house -- those are my memories & I will cherish them forever!!!

Oh these kids smarter than us at times!  

[kivah]

@Sooner

I've never used it.

[Sooner]

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@homedecor1 wrote:

@Kachina624

I don't know how to copy but your statement about your nieces made me chuckle.  My niece is the same - I called her (shall I say my son text her with a message he would be doing TG but if she preferred to do it at their new home he would understand)

So I casually ask her if she got the text  -- her answer: I'm not doing any TG that's a full- day of cooking & a sit down style dinner!  I (we) have no desire to start doing that - we like casual, easy entertaining, i.e., paper plates!!!  She was too funny: I said I will help you -- she said "thanks but no thanks I don't want to be stuck the next 20 years I'll keep Easter brunch, Christmas Eve & calling the caterer!!!! (Guess the Holly Lenox will remain in the boxes!! Lol)

I just chuckled because she said I loved the many wonderful holidays and sit down dinners at your house -- those are my memories & I will cherish them forever!!!

Oh these kids smarter than us at times!  

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I'd simply say lazy rather than smart.  You were good for the wonderful memories, but she won't take her turn?  Sad statement I think. . . Sorry, but I find it disappointing that today's kids aren't eager to give back to the next generations of the things they loved. 

[Kachina624]

Totally agree @Sooner, I think laziness has a lot to do with it.  They dont want to risk missing a few minutes on their cell phones.  It makes me very sad.

[homedecor1]

@Sooner

No way is she lazy in any sense of the word! I call this newer generation "smarter" as they are honest in their feelings.

And she does take her turn - she & her husband host a wonderful Easter Brunch & egg hunt for all the kids & Christmas Eve (over 40 people).  It's a wonderful enjoyable time with family & friends. 

Why would we want someone who doesn't care to do it expect them to?  It's not what they are comfortable doing.

im glad she has great memories of our special times!

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@Sooner wrote:

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@homedecor1 wrote:

@Kachina624

I don't know how to copy but your statement about your nieces made me chuckle.  My niece is the same - I called her (shall I say my son text her with a message he would be doing TG but if she preferred to do it at their new home he would understand)

So I casually ask her if she got the text  -- her answer: I'm not doing any TG that's a full- day of cooking & a sit down style dinner!  I (we) have no desire to start doing that - we like casual, easy entertaining, i.e., paper plates!!!  She was too funny: I said I will help you -- she said "thanks but no thanks I don't want to be stuck the next 20 years I'll keep Easter brunch, Christmas Eve & calling the caterer!!!! (Guess the Holly Lenox will remain in the boxes!! Lol)

I just chuckled because she said I loved the many wonderful holidays and sit down dinners at your house -- those are my memories & I will cherish them forever!!!

Oh these kids smarter than us at times!  

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I'd simply say lazy rather than smart.  You were good for the wonderful memories, but she won't take her turn?  Sad statement I think. . . Sorry, but I find it disappointing that today's kids aren't eager to give back to the next generations of the things they loved. 

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