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[Desert Lily]

As some of you know, I've been building a house on the East coast. I live on the West coast now and will be moving almost 3,000 miles. I'll be close to a sibling and my child in the East.

Today, I received notice that I will be closing before the end of April. I know I should be jumping for joy that there seems to be an end to this long building journey. Instead, I'm crying as I write this.

Now that the move is real, I feel like I'm leaving so much behind. My parents have passed and I buried them here. Everyday, I see where my dog used to lay by my chair before she passed at 18. My child worked so hard here in school to become a National Merit Scholar and ended up at 2 ivy league colleagues in the East. There are the other memories; you know - the birthday parties, the holidays, the family & friends gatherings.

I don't know how to pack up all those memories in boxes or in my suitcases for the flight East. I don't know if all the memories I have will fit.

I know, I'll make new memories. But, that reminds me of the old Girl Scout song: "Make new friends, but keep the old. One is silver, and the other is gold." Those old memories are gold to me.

[Still Raining]

This is are hard transition, although wished for, still tough.

I wish you all the peace you need to make the move.  It will worth it to be near loved ones ❤️

[ThinkingOutLoud]

I'm tearing up with you because I know what you mean. Although my move was a good thing and I'm grateful things fell into place, part of my heart is still where I lived for many years. As @Still Raining said, it will be good to be close to your sibling and child. 

Wishing you all the best as you go through the process of packing, moving and adjusting. <3

[Sooner]

@Desert Lily I am so happy for you!  You are so lucky to have someone to move near!  But I am sad that you are sad.

What I have learned in my long life and being "blessed" () to be executor of more than one estate is that memories do not reside in stuff.  The stuff is what people you loved had in their lives.  Which may not be what you want in your new life, and that's ok!  

We are not muesums of our loved ones who have passed, we each have our own lives to collect and put our stamp on.  Don't be afriad to pare down, send loved things to new people to love and cherish, and move lightened and enthusiastic about a new home and new memories with your family! 

I smile thinking about the kitchen bar where my dad taught me to play poker when mother wasn't home!  But I am glad I don't have that poor old house any more. I am blessed that someone bought it.   And the big old trunks, and the cast iron pieces, and so much more!

I think the move will be a wonderful time in your life, with more security and happiness to come!

Have fun, cherish your memories, and I hope your move is blessed with being near people you love!  

[LIG1]

Congratulations @Desert Lily on your upcoming move into your beautiful new home. I can relate to the joy and the tears that comes with a move and I wish you much happiness on the beautiful new memories that you'll make in your new home. 

[Drythe]

@Desert Lily

As an East Coaster, please allow me to say, Welcome, and yes, it

will be different.  Please give us some slack as you adjust!  😉

As for those wonderful memories, have no fear; they will travel along nicely tucked away in your heart ♥️ - No wrinkles, No mildew, no massive storage space. so take them out often and enjoy!

Safe travels.

[spiderw]

Memories never leave us no matter how far we may go.  They stay treasured and cherished in our hearts and minds, always there for when we need to bring them out.  Your cross country move, Desert Lily, will not erase what you left behind.

I understand it is difficult, it would be for me.  Crying proves how much you will miss but you will gain new memories and hopefully make new friends,  Welcome to the East Coast, I hope you will be happy and find peace of mind. I wish you well.

[Kachina624]

I'm saving my tears for your first snowfall next winter. I hope you're in a townhouse or condo with snow removal, but you'll still have to drive in it. Living in the Southwest does tend to spoil one.

[proudlyfromNJ]

@Desert Lily  Welcome to the East coast. Nothing is better than being with family! As for those memories, they will be with you forever and you won't even have to pack them!

[millieshops]

@Desert Lily   What I wish for you is that once you move you find that you did pack those memories, a few in pictures but even more in your wonderful memories.  Further, once you are more settled in the new home. I wish you the warmth and closeness of being near family and making new memories.

I made a major move just about a year back - it is exhausting physically and emotionally but please come back in some months and tell us the benefits of your move.