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[casuallady]

We just had a guy pickup a small dump truck of junk ! That should be good, but guess what our basement and loft still look ugly. The loft is overloaded with furniture.

I am frustrated, and hubby seems to care less.

[depglass]

If he doesn't care one way or the other, do what you wish. I get the feeling this is not the first chapter of this story.

[Mom2Dogs]

Casuallady, if your husband really does not care then I would get rid of what I wanted to and keep what I wanted.

I posted earlier about wanting to move, I had to have a conversation with my husband about his lack of enthusiasm about a move...I really want to move he is neutral, hard to buy a home with that attitude, I don't want to push him into something he does not want....so I told/asked him to at least call the bank about rates, etc... I do all the investigating and was afraid he was just along for the ride, after a conversation about me always being in charge he stepped up to the plate and is being more helpful....maybe you need to have a conversation with your husband about all the stuff, if he truly does not care then you're in charge of it and I'd do what ever I wanted to do with the basement items.

I will admit that when i have a project, I work on it until it is done, he tends to put things off so I am learning to try to be less competent, ha! Good Luck, I'd love to help you clean your basement, that is something I love to do....

[sarpy]

I would hire 2 Men and a Truck. They start charging when they leave their office. They will come to your place, load the truck with the stuff you don't want and take it to the dump, GoodWill whatever. Maybe that would open his eyes.

[casuallady]

I wasn't very clear, he doesn't care if the basement looks ugly, and the loft is overloaded with furniture, but he does care about keeping lots of useless stuff. It has been a real tug getting to where we are. I am just getting tired. I actually like cleaning out and making things look nice, but is so difficult when he wants to hold on to stuff.

[ANewHue]

I'm having the same issue I get rid of stuff and clean and before I know more stuff is piled high. It's very frustrating to me but I seem to be the only one that cares. I have to learn to close my eys and not let it bother me because it gets me crazy. Hopefully someday I'll get to have my basement done the way I want it. Don't give up hope.

[Lilysmom]

Casuallady, I feel your pain. We moved after 26 years in one place and it is indeed a job. My husband is the keeper of useless things (my opinion, I know) in our house. When I just have to do it, I do it. If he doesn't want to participate, fine. If I throw out something he wanted to keep, tough. With that attitude, he usually pitches in and does his share. We negotiate some items and try to get rid of the rest. Don't give up, you're probably at least half the way there!!! If you give up now, you will just have to start at zero next time. I usually give myself a week to lay the groundwork and then plow on. Good luck to you!!! LM

[AuntG]

If a truck load of stuff was removed from your house, it has to look a lot better than it did. Don't you agree? I just want you to appreciate how much you did accomplish. Why not talk to DH tomorrow and tell him what needs to come out of the loft. If I were you, I wouldn't push too much on the basement, because no one will see that anyway, but I would try to get him to take more out of the loft.

[casuallady]

On 3/10/2014 beaches21 said: I'm having the same issue I get rid of stuff and clean and before I know more stuff is piled high. It's very frustrating to me but I seem to be the only one that cares. I have to learn to close my eys and not let it bother me because it gets me crazy. Hopefully someday I'll get to have my basement done the way I want it. Don't give up hope.

I don't want a finished basement, just cleaned out, floor cleaned and painted, walls a fresh coat, and buy some very strong solid shelving. I don't want a lot of shelving, or hubby will fill it up. What is on our current ugly wood shelving is way to much stuff. Our steps need painted, and freezer and cabinets painted,...

[Mominohio]

I, too, feel your pain. I have a husband that tends to keep way too much, and often it is not worth keeping. I've managed to keep it out of my house and garage, mostly in his shop, but it drives me nuts. I've gotten to the place in the house where I throw/give away things when he isn't looking, and so much of the time, he doesn't even notice. If he sees me get rid of some things, he picks them out and puts them back, so I just do it when no one is looking!

AuntG is right, be proud of the work you have accomplished, and don't give up.