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[drizzellla]

Judgejudith - I watched a show about people in Belgium(?) adopting graves of American Soldiers that died during D-Day. It was so interesting. Classes of school children, families, single people. Decorating the graves and attending to them. The cemeteries contain thousands of graves of American soldiers. Many times the people find out what they can about the soldier. And on occasion get to meet the families of the soldier.

They too have the theme of gone but not forgotten. They appreciate what the American soldiers did.

[happycat]

Ennui1, I think it is very kind of you to try to take care of your friends grave. Where my grandparents are buried, they have a decoration every year, and some of the people that go there always take extra single flowers to put on the graves that don't have any. Some of the graves are very old, and only are marked by large rocks. I have always loved that cemetery, it sits on a hill, surrounded by trees. My grandpa (years ago) showed us a marker there-just a long rock- he said that is an arm that so and so lost in an accident. The gentleman is buried somewhere else in the cemetery.

Would they allow a small statue, maybe an angel, or something your dear friend would have liked?

[qualitygal]

On 4/20/2014 judgejudith said:

An interesting topic of discussion, reading the replies got me to thinking. I do visit cemeteries often, in part due to my interest in genealogy. I visit my families graves, not so much because I think they are there, but because I think it shows respect and love that I take care of their bodies' final resting place. I always feel my deceased loved ones are with me where ever I am.

The Daughters of the American Revolution (DAR) had a project where we "adopted" the grave of veteran whose grave was not being attended. In most cases, the veteran's family was also deceased. We were encouraged to take care of the veteran's grave and show respect for the veteran in the same way we would take care of our own families' graves. I thought it was a very worthwhile project. Sort of you are gone but not forgotten. May I suggest that if you are moved by an unattended grave, that you adopt that grave...it will make you feel good.

The "Find a Grave" web-site is a very useful tool for genealogists. Suggest you take time to search out your family on this web-site and leave your memorial.

That's so nice! Thank you!

[ennui1]

In honor of Memorial Day, I visited and took a small plant.

Anyone else visiting for the holiday? I don't think it's only for veterans.

[Kachina624]

I was and am provoked at my mom for insisting that her and dad's ashes be put in a memorial wall in her hometown of Grand Junction, Colorado. I'll probably never visit there again, we have no relatives there and I can't do a thing on holidays. She never lived there after HS, and we have a beautiful facility here, much nicer than there. I would so like to put flowers in the vase provided.

[greamy]

Just went to the cemetery to place flowers on my parents and brothers grave for Memorial Day. Also put flags on my father and brothers grave. Try to go for all holidays and other times when I can go there.