serving at a funeral dinner - Page 3

cherry · ‎03-09-2010

@proudlyfromNJ we feed the mourners a meal after the services are completed ,and the body is returned to the earth

We do this to let the family visit with friends and relations ,without being taxed with preparing a meal for them

Sometimes, if it has been a long hospital vigil, people haven't had a decent meal for days. All the leftover food is sent home with the family, so they don't have to worry about food for a bit

proudlyfromNJ · ‎05-01-2010

@cherry . That’s what I thought, just never heard of it before. Around here we take the people who attended the funeral service out to eat.

sunshine45 · ‎03-09-2010

@proudlyfromNJ wrote:
@cherry . That’s what I thought, just never heard of it before. Around here we take the people who attended the funeral service out to eat.

that is what we do @proudlyfromNJ .

everyone is taken out for dinner/lunch OR we all go back to someones home to have a buffet type meal.

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Snicks1 · ‎07-28-2012

@cherry, that is so very kind of you and your hubby. I'm sure you will be dressed appropriately. Remember to wear comfy shoe, you'll be on your feet, a lot.

"To each their own, in all things".

AuntG · ‎03-09-2010

I've gone to many in church basements or fellowship halls. Black/navy/charcoal slacks with a tunic or blouse would be fine.

spiderw · ‎06-14-2010

Wearing something conservative, dignified, should be fine. Jeans would be out and nothing too loud as far as color and print. That is just my opinion and I am sure you will look very nice because you care enough to ask.

Nataliesgramma · ‎03-28-2015

Around here we call it the "Mercy meal"....

I would wear black slacks and a white blouse, but I know you will look inappropriate.

mnmom · ‎03-10-2010

I recently started helping at our funeral lunches too, and was told to dress nicely, no jeans. I wore dark pants or a dark skort and a top. I don't own any white tops; they would get full of food, coffee, or dishwater. Most wear nice pants and a dressier top.

I so appreciated the people who helped at my mom's funeral lunch last summer. It feels good to help someone else.

Some of these lunches serve 100+ people. Those of you who take people out for lunch after the funeral, do you take a group that size?

cherry · ‎03-09-2010

We have had over 100 people at some dinners. That would be a huge expense for the family ,at a time like this..All of our work is volunteer ,so it costs the family ,only what the cost of the food is, which is always way cheaper than a restaurant meal

If they can't afford the cost of the groceries, we cover it as well

proudlyfromNJ · ‎05-01-2010

@mnmom wrote:
I recently started helping at our funeral lunches too, and was told to dress nicely, no jeans. I wore dark pants or a dark skort and a top. I don't own any white tops; they would get full of food, coffee, or dishwater. Most wear nice pants and a dressier top.

I so appreciated the people who helped at my mom's funeral lunch last summer. It feels good to help someone else.

Some of these lunches serve 100+ people. Those of you who take people out for lunch after the funeral, do you take a group that size?

@mnmom The funerals that I have been to usually don’t have 100 plus people at the funeral itself. Most of them just go to the viewings. Ones I have been to usually just have family and close friends at the funeral.The family then invites everyone to go to eat.

Although we had a family member pass away at 50 so there were many at the funeral and we’re all invited to the restaurant.