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I am still oxox · ‎03-09-2010

Last time I went to a White Party I was 40 ish and doing a Summer share in the Hampton's. The party was at some fancy place in South Hampton I think

Stop being afraid of what could go wrong and start being positive what could go right.

haddon9 · ‎03-09-2010

@Nonametoday wrote:
@JFD12 wrote:
@Tinkrbl44 And do you know what happened to me last night? Out of the blue? I chipped a bottom tooth! A pretty good chip! My nephew is my dentist, closed on weekends. I'm hoping that I will be able to see him this week to get my tooth fixed before this big "white" party! 🤓
@JFD12

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I hope you will be able to get the tooth fixed and attend the party. I hope you will wear white. Yes, there are people who say they wouldn't wear white, some who would question why, others who say they don't like being told what to wear. Apparently there are many people who are not social and some who don't care about ever being social. That is the way they are and it's their choice to stay home. All people are wonderful but not all people like the same things.

But if someone is having a lavish party, which apparently this is, then you either go white or stay home, is my opinion.

Next time, the gentleman will probably know who and who not to invite. If someone thinks enough of you to go to the trouble to spend thousands (probably) of dollars on a party to which you are invited, and you are asked to wear white, which simply can be purchased as cheap or expensive as you wish, then you do what the invitation asks. If you opt not to wear white because you just don't like being told what to wear, then just stay home.

Let us hear how the tooth and the party turn out.

@Nonametoday I don't think it's about being "social" or not. Some people like to socialize and go to parties but are uncomfortable wearing something alien to them. I personally only have white summer pants, sandals & sneakers.

I just don't like wearing white to begin with and certainly don't have it in my winter wardrobe. I would be one of those questioning this and probably grumble to other invited guests that I know beforehand.

However if I was invited to a winter white party I would look for something to wear....as in buying something or send my regrets.

CrazyTimes · ‎01-16-2025

@Tinkrbl44 wrote:
@shoptilyadropagain wrote:
No....it's still very much winter here with snow and ice and my winter wardrobe doesn't include white. I also don't like to be told what color to wear to an event .....wedding, birthday, etc.

@shoptilyadropagain  @JFD12 @CrazyTimes

I have no idea about what's really going on here, but it's obviously a "theme" party ... right?

IMO, social skills are important ....

Remember, no one is holding a gun to your head to force you to attend any event. You can send your regrets.

Since it's a "theme" and these other people are the ones paying the bills for this party, if you cannot abide by the theme, please stay home.

If the party is "everyone wear white" and you decide you'll wear whatever you darn want, and wear red, you'll stand out and draw attention to yourself .... and NOT in a good way.

@Tinkrbl44
I respectfully disagree. Not wanting to participate in a theme dress party doesn't mean I should stay home or have poor social skills. I have attended a few of these and wore what I want. No one told me to leave, and we all had a good time.

People who know me well know I don't like being told what to wear. If it's an invitation from someone I don't know very well, I probably would choose to stay home. As far as matters of etiquette, I definitely know what to wear to certain occasions. I wouldn't wear anything inappropriate.

ETA: I would hope the fellowship would be more important than the clothing.

Enufstuff · ‎03-12-2010

@JFD12 @FancyPhillyshopper @Nonametoday

Yes, I would wear white to the party.

I like themed parties and have had a few myself.

Over the past 25 years, we have had a Victorian tea party, a 1914 Garden party, a Woodstock party, a Halloween wedding, a Hawaiian Luau, a formal 2000 New Year party, an Egyptian dinner party and an Asian dinner party.

For these parties, I made the invitations, decorated,

made the food and selected the music for each one. I and my children loved dressing for these events and my husband complied. Most of the guests dressed for them and enjoyed the parties. My kids love theme parties and dressing for them.

They were a lot of work, but a lot of fun, especially

the research and planning for each one.

Years ago, when my husband's brother turned 50, his wife had a 1950's party for him. On the invitation, she asked the guests to dress in 50's attire. Of course, I went to a large costume shop and bought a pink poodle skirt and crinoline petticoat to wear under it. I wore a white sweater and neck scarf and a 50's hairdo.

I could not believe that I was the only one, out of more than 50 people, to dress for the party. Even the wife of the birthday boy only rolled up her jeans, nothing else 50's style. I felt like an idiot, being the only one, dressing for the event. I expected a 50's themed party. There weren't even any decorations.

When my children were young, Happy Days was a

popular tv show. I thought that it would be fun to have a 50's party for them and their friends. My three girls 10, 11, & 12, were excited and looked forward to vintage dress and hairdos.

Their friends did too. Most of the girls wore pony tails, white ankle socks and longer skirts. My daughter styled her 7 year old brother's hair like Fonzie and my 2 year old son wore a big Fonzie T-shirt.

I decorated with hanging 45 rpm records and played 50's music. We had dancing and hula hoops. My first husband had a black 1950 Ford and I took pictures of all the children sitting on and around the car.

I made a cake in the shape of a 50's car and I don't even remember what I served for food, it was so long ago.

It was just a party for no special occasion and all the kids had fun.

Tinkrbl44 · ‎08-23-2010

@CrazyTimes wrote:
@Tinkrbl44 wrote:
@shoptilyadropagain wrote:
No....it's still very much winter here with snow and ice and my winter wardrobe doesn't include white. I also don't like to be told what color to wear to an event .....wedding, birthday, etc.

@shoptilyadropagain  @JFD12 @CrazyTimes

I have no idea about what's really going on here, but it's obviously a "theme" party ... right?

IMO, social skills are important ....

Remember, no one is holding a gun to your head to force you to attend any event. You can send your regrets.

Since it's a "theme" and these other people are the ones paying the bills for this party, if you cannot abide by the theme, please stay home.

If the party is "everyone wear white" and you decide you'll wear whatever you darn want, and wear red, you'll stand out and draw attention to yourself .... and NOT in a good way.

@Tinkrbl44
I respectfully disagree. Not wanting to participate in a theme dress party doesn't mean I should stay home or have poor social skills. I have attended a few of these and wore what I want. No one told me to leave, and we all had a good time.

People who know me well know I don't like being told what to wear. If it's an invitation from someone I don't know very well, I probably would choose to stay home. As far as matters of etiquette, I definitely know what to wear to certain occasions. I wouldn't wear anything inappropriate.

ETA: I would hope the fellowship would be more important than the clothing.

@CrazyTimes

I understand your points. However, I doubt wearing what you want and no one asked you to leave meant very much. Why cause a scene with someone so dense? I doubt I'd ever invite someone so clueless ever again to anything.

This party is different, because it's at an expensive venue and important people have been invited. It's going to cost the host $$$$$.

It appears to be a rather elegant affair and the photos of attendees will circulate widely.

IMO ... This is less about "fellowship" than it is about what the person paying the bills wants it to be.

Tinkrbl44 · ‎08-23-2010

@Enufstuff wrote:
@JFD12   Yes, I would wear white to the party.
                I like themed parties and have had a few myself.
               Over the past 25 years, we have had a Victorian tea party, a 1914 Garden party, a Woodstock party, a Halloween wedding, aHawaiian Luau, a formal 2000 New Year party, an Egyptian dinner party and an Asian dinner party.

               For these parties, I made the invitations, decorated,
made the food and selected ther music for each one. I and my children loved dressing for these events and my husband complied. Most of the guests dressed for them and enjoyed the parties. my kids love theme parties.

              They were a lot of work, but a lot of fun, especially
the research and planning for each one.

@Enufstuff @JFD12

One of the best theme parties I ever attended was a wedding on Halloween night.

The priest wore a magnificent purple high bishop costume and everyone was asked to wear Halloween costumes, their choice.

The only person who wore a "regular" outfit was the groom's best man, his father. Dad wore a very nice black suit .... and had a full rubber Yoda mask on, which went well with the suit.

The attendants were all dressed like Chiquita Banana and was a very joyous and fun affair.

The pictures were amazing! lol

CrazyTimes · ‎01-16-2025

@Tinkrbl44 wrote:
@CrazyTimes wrote:
@Tinkrbl44 wrote:
@shoptilyadropagain wrote:
No....it's still very much winter here with snow and ice and my winter wardrobe doesn't include white. I also don't like to be told what color to wear to an event .....wedding, birthday, etc.

@shoptilyadropagain  @JFD12 @CrazyTimes

I have no idea about what's really going on here, but it's obviously a "theme" party ... right?

IMO, social skills are important ....

Remember, no one is holding a gun to your head to force you to attend any event. You can send your regrets.

Since it's a "theme" and these other people are the ones paying the bills for this party, if you cannot abide by the theme, please stay home.

If the party is "everyone wear white" and you decide you'll wear whatever you darn want, and wear red, you'll stand out and draw attention to yourself .... and NOT in a good way.

@Tinkrbl44
I respectfully disagree. Not wanting to participate in a theme dress party doesn't mean I should stay home or have poor social skills. I have attended a few of these and wore what I want. No one told me to leave, and we all had a good time.

People who know me well know I don't like being told what to wear. If it's an invitation from someone I don't know very well, I probably would choose to stay home. As far as matters of etiquette, I definitely know what to wear to certain occasions. I wouldn't wear anything inappropriate.

ETA: I would hope the fellowship would be more important than the clothing.

@CrazyTimes

I understand your points. However, I doubt wearing what you want and no one asked you to leave meant very much. Why cause a scene with someone so dense? I doubt I'd ever invite someone so clueless ever again to anything.

This party is different, because it's at an expensive venue and important people have been invited. It's going to cost the host $$$$$.

It appears to be a rather elegant affair and the photos of attendees will circulate widely.

IMO ... This is less about "fellowship" than it is about what the person paying the bills wants it to be.

@Tinkrbl44

I didn't cause a scene at the parties I attended, and I'm not dense or clueless. Yes, the person hosting the party gets to set the "rules". And, if the party is all about being seen, instead of fellowship, than I have no desire to attend.

Stray · ‎04-20-2013

I love winter white but was a nurse & hate optic white. I would comply per the request

Enufstuff · ‎03-12-2010

@Tinkrbl44 The Halloween wedding that you attended, must have been fun. The Chiquita Banana attendants cracked me up.

@JFD12

My daughter got married at our home on Halloween. It was a surprise wedding. Everyone thought that they were just coming to a Halloween party. So everyone was in costume. The JP wore her black robe and a fancy feather mask.

My daughter wore a gorgeous white gown and her husband wore a tux and his best man, a suit. Her two attendants wore black dresses. The house was all decorated for Halloween, with the mantle decorated with black and orange candles. The living room was filled with Halloween decor.

When the guests were here, they kept asking where Paula was.

I made little parchment scrolls, tied with a black ribbon for each guest. On the scrolls I wrote "Roses are red, violets are blue. Tonight is the night the surprise is on you."

I passed out the scrolls and the bagpipe music began. Paula

descended the stairs to enter the livingroom. Everyone was shocked and surprised. Paula was 29 and she and her husband

had been a couple since high school. All their friends were married and had been asking when they would get married.

This was later in the evening , so I served no dinner, just snack foods. I had the local bakery make orange colored bread loaves that were cylinder shape. It's called cream bread, so delicious. They sliced it and I made chicken salad sandwiches.

Of course there were chips and snacks, too.

We had a case of champagne and the bakery made a beautiful

tiered cake with white frosting decorated with black with orange roses. Paula sliced the cake with a real sword.

For favors, I filled black netting with candy corn and tied with orange ribbons that were printed in black with the bride and groom's names and October 31st, 1993

Those were inserted into a little plastic Jack O'Lantern for each guest.

That was a fun time. Halloween has always been my kids favorite holiday, next to Christmas.