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[Imaoldhippie]

Again here we are making a mountain out of a mole hill.  It does not matter the color of anyones eyes, hair or skin.  We are all human beings.

Her telling a bit sbout her youth is not a big deal in the grand scheme of things.  Move on.

[sunshine45]

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@Group 5 minus 1 wrote:

No, but many Persians resent being called Iranians.

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i dont know if i know anyone who RESENTS being called an iranian. one thing about iranians......they know how to distance themselves from the government and rulers.

many persians/iranians DO identify with the areas they are from or the people from whom they are descended......turks, armenians, jewish, kurds, shirazis, etc.....

actually, there are quite a few people dont know what you are talking about if you call yourself a "persian." of course, no one says they are from PERSIA.

[sunshine45]

does anyone know which item she was presenting so we can here what courtney said?

[suzyQ3]

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@Spurt wrote:

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@suzyQ3 wrote:

Some here tend to think that all we have to in life is to love and appreciate ourselves no matter who we are or who we look like.

That's all fine and dandy except for those people who, because of their different race or ethnicity, can't just overcome what is thrown at them by looking in the mirror and repeating a cliche.

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The character inside each of us and our individual talents  are important ...... There are many examples of people who have played an important part in our society that didnt let their economic start in life, race, or culture stop them from achieving lofty goals or making a difference for themselves and others....its what you make out of life through hard work, education, determination, and self worth!!!  Playing a VICTIM and boo hooing because life dealt you a bad hand only gets you depression and pain and a pitiful life...!!! 

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Of course, @Spurt . But if that's the only emphasis, it negates what some have gone through precisely because of their race or ethnicity. I'm sure that you are not one who would want to belittle the impact of that.

You would never want to dismiss such experiences that become part of a person no matter what his future looks like.

[Carmie]

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@Shanus wrote:

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@Carmie wrote:

@Shanus   I am very different looking. Very few people look like me.

I had black hair and extremely light cool bright blue eyes.  My hair is salt and pepper now.

All of my life people have stared at me and invited others to " look at her eyes". They even did this to me when I was a toddler. My blue eyes glow, especially against my very pale skin color with dark hair.

My husband gets upset at people when they do this and get very close to me to look, 

but I am used to it.  When we traveled to Asia ( more than once) I was bombarded with onlookers.

It's no big deal to look different when everything normal except for your unusual hair, eye or skin coloring.

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@Carmie   I sympathize. My DD and I are (and have been) usually the tiniest women in the group...both in height and size. While growing up, we both had almost black hair against very fair skin, she with bluish green eyes & mine were green. Many things that made us "stand out". When comments or compliments came our way, "thank you" would seem sufficient or no explanations needed.

If someone got that close to me to take a look at the exact color of my eyes, they're in my personal space. That would bother me more than looking unusual. 

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I am never bothered by people looking at my eyes.  I don't know any different.   it doesn't even bother me when they get close to look.

When we were in China, the older ladies would come up to me and rub my arms and look at my eyes.  China was closed off for many years to foreigners. Many of these women never saw anyone so pale or with my color blue eyes.

An Aferican American lady with us had very, very dark rich skin.  She kept getting her arms rubbed too.  We both thought it was funny.  The younger Chinese women who could speak English apologized for the behavior of their seniors.

We are all different, yet all the same.

[grandma petes]

I guess I'm really shocked and dismayed at the extremely negative comments on a thread that was truly meant to show how vulnerable someone can feel when they feel like they're different. I think Kourtney is a beautiful young woman, has really grown into her role as an amazing host and for people to bash what was meant as an honest emotion really saddens me.

I don't post a lot and when I do, I do my best to try and make it positive...heaven knows there's enough negativity to go around. I guess I will never understand why women feel the need to tear each other down when we should be lifting each other up. I can't imagine how hard it is to be in front of the cameras all the time and to be at the mercy of constant judgement. These women are sisters, daughters, mothers and wives...what would you think if people wrote such negative comments about your loved one? Even the vendors are at the mercy of constant criticism on this forum. The OP even said she wishes this thread would be taken down. How sad is that. 

I'm sorry everyone, but if this is your idea of what social media is all about, then maybe you should just scroll past instead of stopping to bash. I know I'll be roasted over hot coals for my comment....but this thread was cruel and sad because of some comments. 

I hope none of you is ever the subject of comments like some that are written here.

[songbird]

Persia?  Not Iran? (the modern country)?  Another well known Iranian was Andre Aggasi (the tennis player)  He was from Iran too. Persia became Iran in the 1930's. It was constitutional monarchy then.  It's been a Islamic theocracy since 1979.   )

[dooBdoo]

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@sunshine45 wrote:

does anyone know which item she was presenting so we can here what courtney said?

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            @sunshine45,  What I saw was a 1:26 minute pre-taped intro to her new "#DaretoShareStyle with Courtney" show.   I think it's being mischaracterized by some of the posts here, but not intentionally -- either posters haven't seen it or they caught the brief video once and only got a quick impression of it.   

            My impression is that it was an assignment for an intro, with a tone of daring to share a personal experience (but of course something that would relate to QVC's merchandise and presentations), and something intended to say that we all have a story and this is just part of hers as a young woman on her own "journey."   I want to add, as a general comment after reading some of the posts, that not all of us were fortunate enough to have family who instilled in us confidence and self-assurance (or to have those as innate strengths) -- and sometimes, in working to find those strengths on our own, we've been encouraged and helped by hearing that and knowing that others had insecurities and found their own ways to move forward beyond them.

            Here's the video on her Facebook account (it's also on her Instagram account), and it's open for public view so everyone can see it:

https://www.facebook.com/CourtneyKhondabiQVC/videos/daretosharestyle-with-courtney/640068433429763/

[dooBdoo]

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@MW in Iowa wrote:

Yes this thread needs to go , i would never have posted it if i thought it would be a problem , i will be more careful next time not to post anything that could be problematic , so that would be almost never. Back to Beauty and TV and Movies.

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            @MW in Iowa,   Just so you'll know, if you start a thread and want the moderators to consider closing or removing it, you can click/tap the "Report Inappropriate Content" on your original post and in the description tell them you're the OP and explain your request.   Not saying that you should do so, however...  I don't see a thing wrong with your thread and I think you simply "dared to share" from your heart your personal, emotional response to the video -- we're all human, with our own experiences, so it's normal for us to have a variety of reactions and, so, we see posts reflecting that fact.   I can't say or judge any of them as being "wrong" as such, since I think they all come from each poster's heart.❤️

[Greeneyedlady21]

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@suzyQ3 wrote:

Some here tend to think that all we have to do in life is to love and appreciate ourselves no matter who we are or who we look like.

That's all fine and dandy except for those people who, because of their different race or ethnicity, can't just overcome what is thrown at them by looking in the mirror and repeating a cliche.

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I think you nailed it. Empathy is victorious over privilege when you recognize this reality and understand it through that empathy.