Re: what would you do if ex-lover texted your husb... - Page 6

FrostyBabe1 · ‎05-09-2016

@SunValley wrote:
It would be helpful to have the situation of his feelings for her explained. This is pivotal to forming a helpful, appropriate response. If his feelings are of simple good will that's a different story to feelings of lingering regret or continued romantic interest. One good signal is that he shared the text with you and didn't keep it secret.

^This! I still have "feelings" for my past romantic partners. Some are kind and generous, some are not. But none of them are romantic.

~The more someone needs to brag about how wonderful, special, successful, wealthy or important they are, the greater the likelihood that it isn't true. ~

Puppy Lips · ‎05-09-2010

Well, they say you never really get over your first love. It has been a LONG time since I was with my first "real" boyfriend. I still have dreams about him to this day. I guess on some level I still have feelings for him, even though I have not seen him or spoken to him in years. That does not mean I would run off with him if I ever ran into him again. He has not come to any of the class reunions, which frankly, part of me is glad because I think I might get a bit nervous around him, and I know that sounds a bit silly.

Every situation is different. I would not assume this EX is trying to worm her way back in. For all we know maybe she is happily married herself. It could just be a friendly text checking on friends.

Always remember that you are absolutely unique. Just like everyone else. Margaret Mead

x Hedge · ‎08-18-2016

Is she looking to renew a romance?

Did she send the text after a "ladies nite" bet?

Maybe a drunken whim?

Maybe it's not even from her, but a husband looking for the guy she's cheating with.

Lotta maybe's here.

Any response only verifies the number is active, and assigned to him. Wise to not respond.

SeaMaiden · ‎03-10-2010

Throw all his belongings in the front yard and light them on fire. Bye Bye!

Sage04 · ‎07-10-2011

@SeaMaiden wrote:
Throw all his belongings in the front yard and light them on fire. Bye Bye!

Ok Bernie, but don't forget to put them in the car first.

LillyandHobo · ‎07-17-2020

I have a few questions! How long have you been married? When was she last in the picture? Why would she have his phone number? Did he show you the text or did you come across it? I would also wonder why he didn't know how to respond back. and lastly, no insults intended but what is your age range? Sorry but I was in a job for 31 years and I am just used to doing the questioning!

teganslaw · ‎03-11-2010

There seem to be many vindictive posters on this board. No one except the people involved actually know what is going on. To make assumptions when there aren't any more details seems to be rather pointless.

"The more I learn about people, the more I like my dog."

Mark Twain

RedTop · ‎09-01-2010

In my case I would be shocked:

#1 - there was no girlfriend before me.

#2 - I can count on one hand the number of people who have his cell number.

#3 - my husband does not read or send texts.

patbz · ‎03-10-2010

I dated a lot before I got married 37 years ago and some of those men are old friends; the same situation applies to DH. I am Facebook friends with three old flames and also the second wife of one of them. Additionally, I have had one old flame visit us while I was pregnant and DH had his H.S. girlfriend, and her husband, visit as well ( we later returned that visit to their home. Neither DH nor I have been threatened by these interactions. Stop acting like you're in H.S.!

Mz iMac · ‎07-26-2014

@Sage04 wrote:
@SeaMaiden wrote:
Throw all his belongings in the front yard and light them on fire. Bye Bye!

Ok Bernie, but don't forget to put them in the car first.

@SeaMaiden& @Sage04

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