Re: update on my highly sensitive co-worker

SuiGeneris · ‎03-10-2010

This thread has turned into a cautionary tale of Appropriate vs. Inappropriate Touching in the Workplace. [hyperlink: http://www.cnn.com/2010/LIVING/worklife/02/08/cb.getting.physical.at.work/]

And the funny version. [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ts8rz-9xxPE]

♥ Be yourself; everyone else is already taken. -- Oscar Wilde ♥

jubilant · ‎06-10-2010

If she would supply all the details on here there could be some who might recognize the situation and know who she is. Not a wise move. Noooooooooooooooo

beanie · ‎03-10-2010

On 3/21/2015 adelle38 said:
On 3/21/2015 Bird mama said:
What I think is unfortunate about the whole situation is that if management knew that Beanie's co-worker was highly sensitive in the first place, why put the co-worker or anyone else working with the co-worker through that kind of stress by introducing a new person to the HS co-workers work space? Does that make sense or did I confuse anyone reading this?

Either management didn't care or they were hoping by doing this they could get either the coworker or beanie to quit without having to pay unemployment.

I am "starting" to believe this might be what management wants. Otherwise, why wouldn't they do something about this situation....and by "do", I mean let her work by herself and put me somewhere else.

beanie · ‎03-10-2010

On 3/22/2015 Pashmina said:
On 3/21/2015 Plaid Pants said:
On 3/21/2015 occasional rain said:
On 3/21/2015 Pashmina said:
Why start this thread if you are not going to tell us what provoked this thread in the first place. And yes I read the other thread but that still doesn't explain why you are shaking or calling your union rep.

I have to agree with you. All we've been told is that a co-worker who had an office to herself now has to accommodate the OP, upsetting to anyone sensitive or not. The OP was given a book to explain the co-workers highly sensitive nature. Nothing more. No examples of what the co-worker has done to upset the OP.

Why did she even post the thread if she wasn't going to explain the situation?

Now we are given an update that the OP is so upset, not a clue about what, that she is going to her union with her complaint which is still a mystery.

For all we know, the o/p is the "sensitive" one.

That is what I am beginning to think too.

Not true...

I should have titled this thread: Only read this post if you read the PRECIOUS post by me regarding a Highly Sensitive Co-Worker. She, herself, has titled herself this way. She doesn't like to be looked at and she doesn't want to share the office. She doesn't want me to answer questions people might previously have asked her...she doesn't want me to touch the mail. She feels threatened and insecure. I've explained that I am probably the least person to be threatened by in the whole bldg. I am 61 years old. I do my job and I have no interest in doing someone else's or trying to prove my worth. I think a lot of thought went into placing "someone" in the office with her and they thought I would be the easiest one for her to get along with.

YorkieonmyPillow · ‎01-13-2013

Aren't you the lucky one.

The is the weirdest thing I've ever heard - she doesn't want to be looked at?

Why is the company to determined to accommodate her? She must have the goods on somebody.....

Plaid Pants2 · ‎03-14-2015

On 3/23/2015 beanie said:
On 3/22/2015 Pashmina said:
On 3/21/2015 Plaid Pants said:
On 3/21/2015 occasional rain said:
On 3/21/2015 Pashmina said:
Why start this thread if you are not going to tell us what provoked this thread in the first place. And yes I read the other thread but that still doesn't explain why you are shaking or calling your union rep.

I have to agree with you. All we've been told is that a co-worker who had an office to herself now has to accommodate the OP, upsetting to anyone sensitive or not. The OP was given a book to explain the co-workers highly sensitive nature. Nothing more. No examples of what the co-worker has done to upset the OP.

Why did she even post the thread if she wasn't going to explain the situation?

Now we are given an update that the OP is so upset, not a clue about what, that she is going to her union with her complaint which is still a mystery.

For all we know, the o/p is the "sensitive" one.

That is what I am beginning to think too.

Not true...

I should have titled this thread: Only read this post if you read the PRECIOUS post by me regarding a Highly Sensitive Co-Worker. She, herself, has titled herself this way. She doesn't like to be looked at and she doesn't want to share the office. She doesn't want me to answer questions people might previously have asked her...she doesn't want me to touch the mail. She feels threatened and insecure. I've explained that I am probably the least person to be threatened by in the whole bldg. I am 61 years old. I do my job and I have no interest in doing someone else's or trying to prove my worth. I think a lot of thought went into placing "someone" in the office with her and they thought I would be the easiest one for her to get along with.

Yes, your previous post is precious! Wink Smile

KathyPet · ‎03-09-2010

Do you both have the same function and job responsibilities? Was she responsible for handling the mail before you were sharing the office? perhaps you should let her continue to handle the mail and refer any questions that are asked to her? it sounds like she is feeling very threatened if you are doing what she used to do.

Allegheny · ‎03-19-2010

Beanie, you mentioned that you may go to your union. Have you done that? On your behalf they may be able to work out a solution with management. If she does have a true disability they have to accommodate her, however not at your expense, that is just wrong. Perhaps management can put up a cubicle to divide up the office so you two wouldn't have to interact. It would be interesting to see if she complains about that.

Justina rae · ‎01-02-2015

On 3/23/2015 beanie said:
On 3/22/2015 Pashmina said:
On 3/21/2015 Plaid Pants said:
On 3/21/2015 occasional rain said:
On 3/21/2015 Pashmina said:
Why start this thread if you are not going to tell us what provoked this thread in the first place. And yes I read the other thread but that still doesn't explain why you are shaking or calling your union rep.

I have to agree with you. All we've been told is that a co-worker who had an office to herself now has to accommodate the OP, upsetting to anyone sensitive or not. The OP was given a book to explain the co-workers highly sensitive nature. Nothing more. No examples of what the co-worker has done to upset the OP.

Why did she even post the thread if she wasn't going to explain the situation?

Now we are given an update that the OP is so upset, not a clue about what, that she is going to her union with her complaint which is still a mystery.

For all we know, the o/p is the "sensitive" one.

That is what I am beginning to think too.

Not true...

I should have titled this thread: Only read this post if you read the PRECIOUS post by me regarding a Highly Sensitive Co-Worker. She, herself, has titled herself this way. She doesn't like to be looked at and she doesn't want to share the office. She doesn't want me to answer questions people might previously have asked her...she doesn't want me to touch the mail. She feels threatened and insecure. I've explained that I am probably the least person to be threatened by in the whole bldg. I am 61 years old. I do my job and I have no interest in doing someone else's or trying to prove my worth. I think a lot of thought went into placing "someone" in the office with her and they thought I would be the easiest one for her to get along with.

If that's all this is about why are you "shaking"? What has she done to you?? I would just do my job, ignore her, smile at her and maybe compliment her now and then.