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[Big Sister]

God bless you, Kitten.   You will survive;  you are stronger than you know.

[persiflage]

Sounds like you have made a well thought out decision that you are comfortable with.  Wishing you much happiness! 

[KingstonsMom]

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@kitten809in wrote:

I'm not worried about stds we haven't slept in the same bed for several years . I don't ike to sleep with arms over me or legs nad i explained this to him and he is the kind of man who is going to do what he wants reguardless, so i bought a day bed and put it in another room and sleep undisturbed. he has had bypass surgery and is on a lot of meds also so no hanky panky lol. My day has been so much better i feel peaceful inside for a change. plane on going to church tomorrow even if I have to go alone. The good Lord loves us all.

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@kitten809in

You sound like you're content with your decision and are ready to move on with your life and I wish you the best!

I'll also defer to my sig below:

[YorkieonmyPillow]

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@kitten809in wrote:

I'm not worried about stds we haven't slept in the same bed for several years . I don't ike to sleep with arms over me or legs nad i explained this to him and he is the kind of man who is going to do what he wants reguardless, so i bought a day bed and put it in another room and sleep undisturbed. he has had bypass surgery and is on a lot of meds also so no hanky panky lol. My day has been so much better i feel peaceful inside for a change. plane on going to church tomorrow even if I have to go alone. The good Lord loves us all.

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  It's very difficult to keep a marriage together without any sort of physical intimacy.

  Sad situation.

[lovejoy2u]

Kitten809in may I ask how old were you when you remarried? i am 63 almost 64 and i would love for God to send me that Christian husband, but if it doesn't happen i will continue living and enjoying my life doing for others, staying busy in church and fulfilling some dreams of playwriting and producing more plays. Many thanks and God bless you all.!

[kitten809in]

answering your question we were both 60. I had been a widow for 10 years and he was a widower for about a year. we knew each other years ago lke in our 20s. I thought he had changed but guess i was wrong. just because they are christian oesn't mean they won't do wrong. i have been watching him at church hugging anothe woman and they always go back to the kitchen to hug , if nothing isgoing on why not hug in front of everyone. he says they have been friends for years but she was also a friend of his late wife who had picked out someone for him to marry after she was gone. my trust and love are one and I am not one to stay in a bad place so I am moving on to where i will be happy and cared for with   my children. I have a grandson who bougt a house for us to share. so be very careful if you meet someone. people are not always who they say they are.

[Ms X]

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@kitten809in wrote:

answering your question we were both 60. I had been a widow for 10 years and he was a widower for about a year. we knew each other years ago lke in our 20s. I thought he had changed but guess i was wrong. just because they are christian oesn't mean they won't do wrong. i have been watching him at church hugging anothe woman and they always go back to the kitchen to hug , if nothing isgoing on why not hug in front of everyone. he says they have been friends for years but she was also a friend of his late wife who had picked out someone for him to marry after she was gone. my trust and love are one and I am not one to stay in a bad place so I am moving on to where i will be happy and cared for with   my children. I have a grandson who bougt a house for us to share. so be very careful if you meet someone. people are not always who they say they are.

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I'm glad to hear that you will be with your children and grandchildren.  It sounds like a great new development.  Look out for yourself in that divorce agreement and don't agree to anything without careful consideration.  Let us know how you are doing.

[kitten809in]

thanks for the advise. I had already started documenting things. he had money in house so i counted it and wrote down amounts. culdn't find the money he had hidden in garage but there was probably couple thousand out there. also called my lawyers office and reported he had taken money out of house. so half of that money is going to go to me. we own two properties a boat and 2 trucks. my lawyer advised me no to ask for the boat or the trucks as they would be barganing tools for me. but i have helped on renovations on both houses so i don't mean to sound greedy but half of everything is mine. that is all i want. I have a home to go to so i don't have that worry. my dear grandson has bought a double for us to share 2/bed 1 bath living room ,kitchen, dining room, utilityroom. and the house is in a lovely very small town. I have visited there and loved it. have other family there also. I know i'm going to a place where i am loved and cared for. oh he told me tonight he had taken my name off the joint  bank account , to bad i didn't pu a freeze on it .but I already took my half out of savings and put the money at my bank. I have always had a seperate account in my name only and had one of my daughter name on the account in case something happened. she is also the benificeary on my life ins. an she knows my wishes and would carry them out. i have also kept inventory on things that I ought for the house we live in as he is a tightad big time and I have always had a nice home but nothing fancy just comfortable. Thank you again for te reply

[Big Sister]

@kitten809in, I am so impressed by your actions and mindset.  It sounds like you are doing everything right, and I'm glad you have a lawyer on your side.

[kitten809in]

this is reguarding divorce post. I went to church by myself sunday. Had lunch with pastr and family. When i got home he was gone and i got suspious so i went looking for money I know he had hidden and it was all gone. Luckly i had couned it and written the amounts  which were in different places. And he informed me that I was no longer on the joint bank acount. reported all of this to lawyer. today got call from lawyers offfice telling me to ask him where that money is, so I asked and he says he has it and he gave it away that he had hidden money in garage. so far i have figured  about $6,000 was hidden. be interestin g what will happen when we go talk to y lawyer(which  have paid for and the filing fee for court). And ladies I have already got a moving company to move me when this is over. And it can't be soon enough. he still doesn't think he has done anything wrong. I am seeing a side of him that I just can't understand, it's like he has no feelings about anything, we just learned his only brother has lung cancer and he hasn't called or gone to see him, it's like he just don't care.