Community Chat

[missy1]

At age 77 why be miserable? Enjoy life.

[Mmsfoxxie]

Wow!  At 77, I might consider a separation (if I could afford it) but I would not get a divorce.  Too traumatic and will only enrich the lawyers.  As missy1 said, just try to enjoy your life.

[DiAnne]

I got a divorce many years ago.  I had a couple of long term relationships over the years but I never wanted to remarry.  My moto is "Familiarity breeds contempt" (I am only half joking).  I love living alone - maybe I am just selfish.  I can do whatever I want whenever I want and I am definitely not lonely.  Just enjoy your life.

[JustJazzmom]

And if he has been unfaithful, I would get yourself tested for any STD's. Yes, the elderly can get those diseases as well as the younger generation.

[Posh Poodle]

Kitten,

Being a church goer myself, I would inform the Pastor and deacons/elders/leaders of their unacceptable, inappropriate behavior. If they're doing this in church in front of witnesses, what are they doing in private? See what the leadership have to say. At the very least, they need to meet with them since there is more than one witness to the behavior. That's what church leaders are for--to bring attention to sinful behavior and hopefully, to gently restore them, if possible. Then I would confront her. There needs to be some sort of accountability.

Take care.

[ROMARY]

It would bother me to have a somewhat 'stalking mistress' following me around.   It's probably best, in the long run, to remove yourself from that situation.  The best of luck to you.

[Deanie]

I don't know if I would advise to get a divorce in this case. The reasons being age and finances.  I would go to a good lawyer to explore my options, however.  Perhaps the OP could just live a separate life and definately find another Church.  Funny stuff going on there.

[kitten809in]

I'm not worried about stds we haven't slept in the same bed for several years . I don't ike to sleep with arms over me or legs nad i explained this to him and he is the kind of man who is going to do what he wants reguardless, so i bought a day bed and put it in another room and sleep undisturbed. he has had bypass surgery and is on a lot of meds also so no hanky panky lol. My day has been so much better i feel peaceful inside for a change. plane on going to church tomorrow even if I have to go alone. The good Lord loves us all.

[Drythe]

@kitten809in

Very best wishes to you!

[queendiva]

You have made your decision. Life is too short. Enjoy every day ahead. Go to church proudly, dress up and celebrate the joy and beauty of Easter, as well as the beginning of your Next Act! Shine!!

Does your church have a choir? Great way for singles to participate in worship. I know.