Community Chat

[Peaches McPhee]

It is terrible manners to not send an actual invitation to someone who has previously been sent a "save the date".   If they meant it to be a wedding 'announcment" they are doing it wrong.

[Krimpette]

Why would they want you to "save the date" if they weren't going to invite you to the wedding?  What else would you be saving the date for?

[proudlyfromNJ]

On both my Save the Date cards, it states "formal invitation to follow".

[Preds]

Save the Dates and the invitations are taken from the same list of invites.  If you get one, you should get the other.  Maybe she just hasn't mailed the invites yet.  We had one bride hand deliver hers because she forgot to mail all of them out. She had mailed her out of town and was waiting a couple of days to mail the in towns.  Well, that didn't work out well. But neither did her marriage.  LOL

[Burnsite]

I got a "save the date" email, to which I responded.  A while later, I got the formal mailed invitation.  Very organized way to do advance planning. 

I can't get up to the venue, thousands of miles away; but was glad to be invited. The bride's mother and I are old school friends who haven't seen each other in years but keep in touch by phone.

[chrystaltree]

No, a save the date card is not an invitation.  It is exactly as the name implies; a notice that you will receive an invitation to an event that will be held held on a specific day.  I always assumed that people only sent them to people they actually were going to invite but in this wacky, tacky world we live in now, I suppose it's possible that some greedy couples send them out to everyone they know and that some of those people don't actually make the cut for an invitation.  They go out up to a year in advance so it's possible the couple broke up or their plans changed.  It doesn't matter, since there is no invitation, you really have nothing to even think about.

[qualitygal]

@Mominohio, sounds like someone left something out, booboo or oversight? Dunno.

[akaburtonfan]

Until I got an actual wedding invitation the date would be just another day on the calendar to me. 

[VanSleepy]

If the wedding is still two or three weeks away, it's possible you just didn't receive the invitation yet.  Not too organized on their part, but possible.  I got my invite to my nephew's wedding two weeks before.  I asked my sister if I was on the 'B list' lol

[chickenbutt]

This is something that came 'after' my time, but I thought it was something that was sent out WAY ahead of time - like months and months.  Then, at the appropriate time, the invitations go out.

They must be doing invitations really close in.

Maybe this is because people seem to have extremely short attention spans now, so they just wait until almost the last minute to invite (?).