Re: please no gifts

RetRN · ‎10-01-2013

I agree, it is awkward. I just say thank you. To me an agreement is an agreement.

faeriemoon · ‎03-14-2010

On 1/23/2014 beammeupscottie said:
If you both agreed no gifts, and they broke the agreement...I'd just say thanks and leave it at that.

I agree.

Are we talking about Christmas? You may have to bring the subject up again next November or so.

~The less talent they have, the more pride, vanity and arrogance they have. All these fools, however, find other fools who applaud them.~ Erasmus

chumlee_ · ‎04-08-2010

We had a no gift wedding last year - 4 couples brought gifts - we thanked them but I was really uncomfortable. Do people think you're being coy?? chum

happycat · ‎09-18-2010

Yes, we have had this happen. At Christmas when a sister said just get for the kids. So, that's what I did, and she had a present for me. That happened one time, and that's it. Now I get everybody who is going be at the Christmas gathering something.

Mominohio · ‎08-08-2010

It does feel a little uncomfortable, but I'd show my gratitude, and drop it for the time being. At a later date, if you see something that they would like/need, you can gift for another occasion, or for no reason at all. I'm big on gifting, but don't feel that every time I give, I should get (or the other way around either).

When something like that happens, I think it would be appropriate, if you wanted to show your thanks, to bake them something, or prepare a dish to be dropped off in appreciation. Also, a nice flower arrangement from your garden, or something you make (like if you sew,knit, or craft).

Cranberries · ‎03-09-2010

Been there, done that. It's uncomfortable because then I feel like an -hole.

One year a family member (and his family) was having an AWFUL time financially/job wise so they said don't buy us gifts, we just can't afford to buy gifts, so we all agreed it was about getting together, not about 'stuff'. So we (husband and I) stuck with it, we didn't buy gifts for them. Well everyone else felt so bad for them they all broke the agreement and bought gifts so then they (who said no gifts) got this massive amount of presents and we sat there with nothing to offer. Felt sooooooo uncomfortable like I looked like a cheap a--, but the agreement WAS no gifts. Pft!

*But at the same time I knew they felt bad getting all those gifts. Awkward for everyone I think.