Re: in rereading some of the posts on here, questi... - Page 7

QueenDanceALot · ‎04-18-2013

@pitdakota wrote:
@chickenbutt wrote:
Staying positive is a constant struggle for me. If somethig is bad, it's bad. I can't put a wig on it and call it ok.

I have a daily struggle to survive, to be perfectly honest. I really don't have any worth anymore. I don't contribute to the world in any meaningful way because I just don't have the tools or the will anymore.

I have been a survivor since I was a little kid who had very bad things happening to her. Honestly, one of the ways I survived the most was just to be numb. Feeling nothing is better than feeling bad.

I go through my days, each no different than the last, and try to find bits of joy in little things that make me smile. I try to keep my mind occupied with things that stimulate it. I don't have a lot of will left, beyond that.
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Well hold on there just a minute, @chickenbutt! What do you mean you have no worth??!! I, for one, would not know what to do if I didn't see your posts and your contributions here on this board anymore!! You have helped many out here and many of us love reading your posts. Not to mention, we look your nic!

I suspect you have far more worth and value than you realize.

In my estimation, chickenbutt is one of the finest people that post here!!

Its Me LuLuBelle2 · ‎10-12-2016

As I've aged I've learned to step back, take a breath, think about what a good life I have and not get whipped up about things that in the greater scheme of things don't matter. With the problems and suffering in the world, I haven't got a thing to be unhappy about and I guess it boils down to keeping things in perspective.

Moonchilde · ‎05-23-2010

Awww, likewise, @chickenbutt 😍 Thank you!

Your little cheat sheet/reminder from your therapist/counselor sounds very special, and I too would love it more for the handwriting to remember the person with fondness.

Life without Mexican food is no life at all

nana59 · ‎05-12-2012

At age 66, I had to do the same--with my sister...has resulted in much less stress in my life....like you said-just couldn't deal with it anymore.

@Nataliesgramma wrote:
I decided to get the toxic people out of my life...ones that treat everyone around them badly........even 2 relatives. I tried hard over the years to be extra nice and forgiving toward them and it never worked.

I don't want to stress out anyone anymore hoping hate doesn't spew out of their mouths when I have a party. At 61, I just can't deal with it anymore....

hckynut · ‎03-10-2010

For me to survive? This is the most direct thing I always remember, and I think someone coined the phrase. In order a human to survive I will invert the order of the most important necessity:

Survival for humans:

1) I can live weeks without food

2) Days without water

3) Minutes without oxygen

Those are the facts for me. I take whatever comes my way, and if I can change it? I do the best possibly can to do so. There are many things I cannot change. With those the one thing I DO NOT DO is worry or stress about them.

I prefer to love what I have, not concern myself with negatives or what I do not have. That applies to every facet of my life.

hckynut(john)

febe1 · ‎01-22-2012

@hckynut wrote:

For me to survive? This is the most direct thing I always remember, and I think someone coined the phrase. In order a human to survive I will invert the order of the most important necessity:

Survival for humans:

1) I can live weeks without food

2) Days without water

3) Minutes without oxygen

Those are the facts for me. I take whatever comes my way, and if I can change it? I do the best possibly can to do so. There are many things I cannot change. With those the one thing I DO NOT DO is worry or stress about them.

I prefer to love what I have, not concern myself with negatives or what I do not have. That applies to every facet of my life.

hckynut(john)

Excellent reply, @hckynut. I've heard those who age the best in life are those with resiliency and can "accept" the limitations that come with the journey through life. And there will be many, before the journey is over. And don't think you are someone exceptional that trials and tribulations will not come your way. They will visit us all.

Puzzle Piece · ‎06-29-2010

I have a sense of humor and a strong sense for the comical. That's how I see to many things that people go around chasing their tale constantly and for everything.

Each day at a time.

Never Forget the Native American Indian Holocaust

Desert Lily · ‎06-24-2011

I want to do more than survive, but there are times in my life when I just tread water. This has been one of the hardest years in my life, having lost my mother this summer and my ex with whom I reconciled with these last couple years and planned to spend my "golden years" with at retirement passing days after Thanksgiving. My chld is on the east coast working on a Ph. D. in frankly "rocket science" and has been compelled in that journey for years now, which brings me great joy along with some isolation. I'm sorry to sound down, but I'm sad, alone, and grieving during this holiday season. How do I survive? I write lousy books and upload them onto a popular electronic book site. I have 5 so far, and my goal is to write 20 more. My characters live in different times and places and experience different things, and if I have a point to make it's intertwined in there. They don't sell well and sometimes they pay utility bills, but I write them for personal survival; they're under my late dog's name without even family or friends being able to read them. I was able to find other independent writers' works that I enjoy reading on that website. I often think of my grandmother at 60 and of what she did in her life. I wish I had her knitting, sewing, and creative skills because they helped her survive. I have a secret goal of knitting the same beautiful hats, scarves, gloves and mittens someday when I retire. How else do I survive? By reading and hopefully learning from wise, compassionate posters.

nun ya · ‎03-09-2010

This past year has been a struggle. Emotionally, I am spent. I have learned to take it one day at a time, tomorrow will have it's own worries to deal with.

hckynut · ‎03-10-2010

@febe1 wrote:

Excellent reply, @hckynut. I've heard those who age the best in life are those with resiliency and can "accept" the limitations that come with the journey through life. And there will be many, before the journey is over. And don't think you are someone exceptional that trials and tribulations will not come your way. They will visit us all.

@febe1

Thank you for your reply and comments. As you say, everyone has a different journey through life. Some because of choices they have made, others over which they have no control. Everyone faces bad times, and my belief is how a person chooses to react to them.

Our household, and myself personally have had quite a few hurdles to handle and my best friend through them, has been, and will always be, Optimism. Best way for me.

hckynut(john)