divorce

kitten809in · ‎09-27-2010

I filed for divorce after 17 years of lving with a mn who is just cold. no compassion jut cold. He has been giving me the silent treatment the last few days but then that is normal for him. But this is the very funny part,after he signed the paper for court he asked me "who gets the dog". not how are we going to settle this or where are you going to llive just nothing but that question. Indiana is a community state so i get half according to my attorney and I am sure I have a very good one as he advised me to take my half of savings and transfet to another bank so I did. It is just sad that this man is like he is.

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deepwaterdotter · ‎03-09-2010

You did what you feel is best for your future. A fresh start is better than a "cold fish". Best of luck.

Lipstickdiva · ‎03-10-2010

God forbid this happened to me but my first priority for me would be my dog too. He could have all the other "stuff" but I would fight him tooth and nail to get my dog.

Nightowlz · ‎03-11-2010

Welcome to the board. Sorry you are dealing with this situation. If it's going south better to jump ship then stay on board. Since you already transferred half your money. I would start using the other half to buy anything you made need after the divorce. If he's not paying attention I would take care of things you need to take care of including yourself. If you are not planning on staying in the home I would start by finding a place to live. I think the dog would be the least of my worries even though I love animals.

2blonde · ‎03-10-2010

Well, the fact that he is only interested in dog custody further illustrates his disassociation with your relationship. I'd bet he's been wanting his freedom for a long time, but didn't care enough to do anything about it.

Praises to you for getting up your nerve to release yourself from this dead relationship before you've wasted any more of your life on someone who is indifferent toward you. Your life is just beginning!

Laura loves cats!

Tinkrbl44 · ‎08-23-2010

@kitten809in

SO sorry you are going through this, but, although it is unfortunate, you hope for a better future and now you're moving through it.

Years ago I used to facilitate divorce support groups and I can say this .... get help to stay strong and deal with the emotional rollercoaster. There's some great books out there on dealing with emotions, so read a few of them.

One more thing ...... keep remembering that NOTHING in single life is as bad as a bad marriage.

HTH

Citrine1 · ‎03-09-2010

I'd want to know about the dog too. Only I wouldn't ask, "who gets the dog". I'd tell him, "I get the dog". You can have the other stuff. The dog comes with me.

2blonde · ‎03-10-2010

@Tinkrbl44 wrote:
@kitten809in

SO sorry you are going through this, but, although it is unfortunate, you hope for a better future and now you're moving through it.

Years ago I used to facilitate divorce support groups and I can say this .... get help to stay strong and deal with the emotional rollercoaster. There's some great books out there on dealing with emotions, so read a few of them.

One more thing ...... keep remembering that NOTHING in single life is as bad as a bad marriage.

HTH