divorce - Page 2

missy1 · ‎03-10-2010

Good for you. Been a year of freedom for me, and I am much happier. Was married a little longer than you. Good luck and make sure you get your share. Men are pigs. (not all)

Witchy Woman · ‎03-15-2010

As someone who has gone through it for basically the same reason, I can tell you it is wonderful on the other side.

I stayed in for 10 years. It doesn't really matter how long you "stayed." You want to leave now, right?

As to the dog, friends of mine who divorced share custody of the pets. Each has the dogs for a certain period of time, but if one travels, the other takes the critters. It seems to work out well.

Of course, that only works if you live nearby. If one of you moves far away, then it's another issue.

Yes, it is sad when someone just doesn't care. But, what I learned is if they don't, they don't. I figured my husband wanted out too but didn't have the spine to do so. Figured things were easy for him and he'd never leave.

Be happy you are stronger than he is and turn your thoughts toward the future. As someone said, being single is much better than being in a bad marriage. I was never happier when I was alone!

Best to you.

lolakimono · ‎03-29-2012

MaggieMack · ‎10-01-2014

@kitten809in, I am so happy for you and your newfound freedom. You just threw off your cloak of invisibility! Wishing you peace and happiness, you will own them soon enough.

Since this is a first post under a nic, I was wondering if you are a poster we know, you certainly remind me of someone.

No act of kindness, no matter how small, is ever wasted. - Aesop

aggravated · ‎03-12-2010

Wish for you much happiness and contentment.

CinNC · ‎10-05-2012

Good for you. I stayed in for 17 years also. I wanted the dogs so I requested I get first choice of property. I don't think he cared. He just turned 60 this year and his new wife told his sister that the only regrets he has is that he didn't treat me better when we were married. Guess his new wife (24 years younger) is teaching him some new lessons. LOL

Best wishes to you! I hope you get the property/monies to which you are entitled!

gidgetgh · ‎03-09-2010

You need to also do something with any credit cards that might be joint accounts. I would do that quickly.

Why is it, when I have a 50/50 guess at something, I'm always 100% wrong?

chrystaltree · ‎05-10-2010

Divorce is always hard and sad, even when it's right to end the marriage. You better ask your attorney about that dog. Don't automatically assume that you'll get to keep it. Assuming you want the dog. As for withdrawing your half of the assets, I always thought attorneys advise that you do that before you actually file for divorce. I don't know about your state but the parties don't decide what is community propery and who gets what.....the court decides. I truly think that it is in your best interest to work out an amicable property settlement with you husband. It sounds like that's what he's trying to do. I'd sit down and talk and draft a prelimary "who gets what" and then you should each take that to your attorneys to work out the final settlement.

missy1 · ‎03-10-2010

@chrystaltree wrote:
Divorce is always hard and sad, even when it's right to end the marriage. You better ask your attorney about that dog. Don't automatically assume that you'll get to keep it. Assuming you want the dog. As for withdrawing your half of the assets, I always thought attorneys advise that you do that before you actually file for divorce. I don't know about your state but the parties don't decide what is community propery and who gets what.....the court decides. I truly think that it is in your best interest to work out an amicable property settlement with you husband. It sounds like that's what he's trying to do. I'd sit down and talk and draft a prelimary "who gets what" and then you should each take that to your attorneys to work out the final settlement.

Yes, the couple gets to decide who gets what (material items ). If one of the parties disagrees then it goes to the judge. They want the property and assets done fairly.

The hardest part for couples imo who have grade-school children with custody.