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[dreamytoo]

Do you ever feel like the stuffins' have been knocked out of you?

It has been a rough few months of medical crises with my mom, the last one being a cancer scare. We just got the all clear on Monday thank God...I have been running on adrenaline for the past few months. Tuesday my daughter lost her job, entire site closing down and all positions immediately terminated, she carries the health insurance for her family...

I am also having some issues with feeling disrespected in my own home by my own children - I am sure many of you can relate. So dealing with that can be a bit draining.

Today I accomplished a lot in the morning but finally collapsed on the sofa this afternoon...I am physically, emotionally and mentally exhausted!

can anyone else relate to this...could it be a delayed reaction?

[Jannabelle]

Take care of yourself Dreamytoo.......I know it is tough when you have so much on your plate, but it is a priority if you are going to be there for others.....you sound like a very caring person.

[dreamytoo]

thank you Jannabelle....I have been fine up until today, I don't know what happened.

[Jannabelle]

On 7/17/2014 dreamytoo said:

thank you Jannabelle....I have been fine up until today, I don't know what happened.

Stress just builds, like you said, delayed reaction....I have found out that it is much better to tend to myself as much as I do others, to avoid meltdowns, and resentment.

[september]

Yes! I've had a rough year, too, for a lot of different reasons. I thought I was rather tough, but found myself often bursting into tears. It's stress, of course.

Things are turning for me at last. I hope things get better for you, soon, too.

[Big Sister]

I hope you'll feel better soon. I think you have been running on empty for a long time and now it's catching up with you.

Don't let the kids get away with disrespecting you and make it clear they have crossed the line.

Be consistent.

[qualitygal]

I can relate. Hugs to you. See if you can zero in on just one thing at a time. Otherwise, it's too overwhelming. There's just no way to stop the brain from acting like a freight train sometimes. In honesty, one thing at a time, allows you to address and do your best at a more sane pace. Do it for yourself. Respect at home? Get tough! If you have to ignore some of that to deal w/mom's health, do that, if they're old enough to tend to themselves. (I didn't have that to go through).

Do rest when you can. Do things to help relax when you can. God Bless you and good luck.

[chrystaltree]

You've been under a lot of stress for quite some time now, you are still stressed out. You haven't been eating or resting. Your body is run down. Listen to it and fir now, just take c are of yourself. You have been through a lot with your mom, thank the heavens that she is doing better. I'm a mom too and I know we hurt when our kids hurt but you can't shoulder her problems now. She has a husband, she has friends, siblings perhaps. She has to get her support from others now because you need some time for yourself. Can you get away for a week? A relaxing vacation would help. Be honest with those closest to you, let them know how you feel, what you are going through. Let them know that for a while, you need to slow down for a little while to get yourself back on track.

[MikafromTopeka]

I know how you feel. Yesterday I brought the lawn mower home from the shop after 6 long weeks only to have it make it around the yard twice before it broke down again. We loaded it up and took it right back. Fortunately the head guy was there alone and he fixed it right up. Seems these new gas additives are terrible for small motors.

Then I discover about a half hour before my son has to get up and shower for work last night that our water pump was out again. Luckily I discovered the new toilet we just had put in when our sewer thawed out was running all the water out of the holding tank. Once I got that to stop our holding tank filled up and it's been ok since.

This morning I have to pick up my mother's cremains at 9am and take them to the post office to send them to my brother. He has an appropriate place to keep them in his home until we go to California next year and place her at the cemetery with my father. I'm not looking forward to this at all.

Then at 11am I have an appointment at the bank which should take care of her checking account. We finished out her apartment on Tuesday so after this morning we should be about done with Mom's business......except for the mail that will come in for the next few months and what that brings.

This weekend we have 6 weeks of yard work to catch up on.

I hope you have a good day Dreamy.

[Madisson]

Dreamytoo, yes your body can have a delayed reaction to stress. Actually, the stress has just been building for a period of time, and you have finally reached the point where you can't take anymore, as well as exhausted a lot of your nutrient reserves in your body. You need a break. Another thing is to get some good B vitamins that help with stress. B vitamins are water soluble, so they do not build up in the body.

See if you can get away for at least a few days just to relax. A week would be better. If you are feeling highly agitated, talk to your doctor about a mild tranquilizer.

We all go through times like this. The body and mind can only take so much. Your body and mind are telling you that it's time for a good rest.